I'm not quite sure the title reflects the article you wrote. Not sure what hype you are referring to.
Firstly, happy that you are making your wedding dreams come true. Much congratulations and happiness!
Secondly, for the most part, vendors and businesses don't care about you personally, ALMOST all of them. They care about making money. Their only concern is that their business continues to make money. The smart ones will recognize that if you are ecstatic that you will spread the word and they will make more money. Don't ever think that it is about you from their side of the table. The smart ones also hire people who are good with working with people to give the illusion that they sincerely care.
That being said, the appeal of destination weddings held at resorts is to not have to plan everything but to have nice template with some choices and have someone do the leg work and everything else for you. I was engaged once before and when it came to the idea of having to plan my own wedding I almost had an anxiety attack. I thought a bit about it and know what?
I realized that the "white wedding" dealing with photographers, receptions, registry etc was not what I wanted to do for "My day".
I think a lot of women get hooked up on the "My day" thing and forget that it is "OUR day" (Husband and Wife both). For us, we want no fuss, no muss, with a beautiful setting and the least work and expenditure possible for this wedding. We are more about the enjoyment of the day than for the way the day looks. Not everyone thinks like that though and it's great to have such diversity. I am sure the people that make money off the weddings agree haha!
I think what I was getting at was that, there is nothing wrong with having the wedding taken care of by the resorts, I don't think there is that much hype attached to the occasion from the resorts.