Jump to content
BusyBee280

People Backing Out- What Percentage Of People Did You Lose?

Recommended Posts

I had my destination wedding a couple of weeks ago and I can assure you all that no matter how discouraging it might be to have people cancel, you won't be thinking about those people when you're at your wedding having the time of your life. Throughout the planning process we definitely had some disappointments over people who couldn't come or those who backed out at the last minute for reasons we didn't feel were legitimate. But out of the 80 people invited, 32 came and we have never had more fun in our entire lives. The group that came was the exact group that was meant to be there and if I could go back in time and add the people who cancelled, I would NOT do it. Things will turn out exactly as they should and you will have an incredible experience no matter what. 

  • Like 5

Share this post


Link to post
Share on other sites

I'm sorry to hear that! I'm trying to stay positive and keep in mind that some people will not make it and try not to take it too hard but I think sometimes that might be easier said than done. I think that yes, as long as your closest family and friends are there it's going to be good. I guess there's always the people who come back with some BS excuse last minute and it's probably hard to look over that. Oh the drama of weddings...hahah

TRUE!! I think a DW is a lot less stressful than planning one at home though. Haveing the coordinator to take care of the little details helps, and we have the excuse of only inviting direct family/ people that we see every day to avoid "uncle frank" getting his feelings hurt. We just started planning an at home reception/cocktail party, so hopefully there will be no drama from that lol

Share this post


Link to post
Share on other sites

@@BusyBee280 definitely! I'm so happy that the resort we chose we can just pay and have all the table decor already chosen and set up for us and of course everything else is so much easier to do. 

I think some people will always be offended but you can't please everyone. Having a destination wedding really helps to keep your guest list in check hahah. 

  • Like 1

Share this post


Link to post
Share on other sites

My friend got married in Ft Lauderdale (family & friends are from Boston) and she lives in Houston. She had her closest friends she's known for years back out at the last second (and they were the bridesmaids). She ended up not having a bridal party and is no longer speaking to some of those friends. DW definitely shows you people's true colors! Having heard about her guests backing out - I came into the planning expecting people to back out. Hopefully it won't be anyone I really can't picture getting married without! We are inviting around 60 people, so hopefully we get at least half that number actually go! But however many people end up going - I know it will be an amazing time and I can't wait to marry my best friend :)

  • Like 1

Share this post


Link to post
Share on other sites

So far we have invited around 88 people. I will be more than happy if 20 of those people show up! Actually I might freak out a little if its more than 20 because I have been very realistic since the beginning of this because we got so much push back from our families. In my head I've sort of been planning for 15-20 people!

  • Like 1

Share this post


Link to post
Share on other sites

yea the booking of the guests is the most stressful part of all this. Everything else has been fun except for that. My deposits are due in 2 weeks and so far I have 17 people booked. We had like 80 something people invited (40 something couples) but we don't expect all those people. Out of those 17 it's only family so far on both sides. We have no close friends booked yet. I feel I will be probably be disappointed. I try not to be and have more of an open mind and positive outlook but sometimes it's just hard  ya know especially when you yourself would do everything possible to be there for your friends wedding but I guess some people don't look at it that way.

  • Like 1

Share this post


Link to post
Share on other sites

Create an account or sign in to comment

You need to be a member in order to leave a comment

Create an account

Sign up for a new account in our community. It's easy!

Register a new account

Sign in

Already have an account? Sign in here.

Sign In Now


  • Best Destination Wedding Sponsors



    Facebook Pinterest Google+ Twitter
  • Posts

    • we ended up using Facebook messenger when we were in Mexico - the hotel had free wifi and at least 1 person from each family/couple had FB on their phone already - it was pretty easy to communicate among guests "hey, we're heading to the beach bbq for lunch." or "everyone is hanging at the small pool today".  a plus was that some people tried to get a hold of me via FB on the day of the wedding and I was totally not checking my phone - they were asking if the wedding was outside given the rain forecast, thankful my mom, MOH and a few other friends were on the group and could respond for me :) 
    • Are you looking for a guide where you’ll find many tips and steps to follow to make your wedding a success? We design a special for you, where you will find: Photography Tips To-Do List Check list How to choose the best dress? Memories and invitations And much more! Download it now for free from: http://emweddings.com/WeddingGuide/index.html     Don’t stress. Enjoy every moment, tomorrow will be your best memories. See you soon!
    • Another option is to find an app that allows for group talk. This Wedding Party App looks pretty neat. https://apracticalwedding.com/wedding-party-app/ 
    • Hi Everyone, So, I was cleaning out my closet and realized that I never sold off my extra wedding OOT bag stuff from our wonderful DW.   46 Daily Spanish for Dummies 30 Pool colored OOT fabric bags - approximately 13in x 13in. They lay flat.  I used them for our wedding and they were perfect for everything we needed to fit in each bag. There’s a slight shade variation in the group; I’m guessing some were cut from a different bolt of fabric.  They are also a little wrinkled from storage and will probably be wrinkled from shipping. I have three additional ones, but they somehow got something on them (likely toddler related). If needed, I can try to wash it out and send those as well. 
    • I’m getting married in six months to my foreign girlfriend. I was advised by a friend that one of the things I need to do before saying I do is to get a prenuptial agreement. Basically it’s supposed to protect my assets and properties in case my relationship with my future wife goes down the drain. I don’t know though if this is an acceptable practice when marrying Kiev ladies. I don’t want to do it if it would be insulting on her end. I need advice on this. Please help me.
  • Topics

×