I don't even know how to start here...When you plan to have a Destination Wedding you know there are going to be some people that just can't make it and you need to prepare yourself for that. I did...or at least i thought i did! I knew some people wouldn't make it but when my best friends i have known my whole life started dropping like flies it was really hard for me.
One came to me [after continuously telling me she was coming] and told me she was pregnant and couldn't come...that was a hard one like i am happy for her and upset with her at the same time but of course i was the good friend and told her not to worry about it and how happy i am for her ext ext..
Second came to me and said they just couldn't afford it her FI still isnt working [after over a yr of being unemployed] and they can't even pay for there own wedding [her parents are footing the bill]. This was blow number 2 but was no where near as hard as a hit as #1 i saw this one coming.
Number 3 was my parents now this was the worst for me if i could explain my mother and i's relationship it would take pages but we have a pretty rocky relationship and we hardly ever see eye to eye. She is very controlling and wants to do what she wants when she wants and how she wants [mostly regarding my daughter] because i say no I'm the controlling B***h. So my mom RSVP'd no her and my dad wouldn't be coming to my wedding and "GOOD LUCK!" as much as this shouldn't surprise me this hurt me more then i could express but that was her intention right? to Hurt me. Deposits are due at the end of June and still they aren't coming.
Number 4 was my brother...he called me and said him and his gf would't be attending because they couldn't afford it...at first i was really understanding they are trying to save for a house wants to get his life together ext ext then it kinda dawned on me your my ONLY BROTHER you've known about this for a year and a half and if you add up the amount of money you've already spend on beer and weed you could have already had your ticket paid off.
Those were the worst there are other friends who've come up with excuses "oh i don't know if i can get time off work"....you have a year to book it! "i just don't think i can get on a plane"...when friend 1 & 2 said they were going you had no problem getting on a plane.
The main advice i would give someone planning a destination wedding is even the people who you think will for sure be there make sure your prepared for them not to be....and as the deposit date gets closer prepare yourself for people who were so excited and for sure coming at the beginning to tell you that they aren't coming for whatever reason. Just remember your not doing this for them this is for you and your fiance. Don't debate if you should change your wedding because you shouldn't this is what you want. A friend of mine who is coming said something that made me feel better "well at least you fiance didn't RSVP he isn't coming" lol
Your wedding will be the most amazing day of your life and when your walking down the aisle looking into you fiances eyes you won't even notice who is standing with him and who's not.