@kcole123 Hopefully you are making progress with your dress shopping. I just got my dress last weekend after feeling very frustrated as well. I ended up with a sweetheart lace dress by Allure (Allure Ascher if you google it).
The one think I would say is to remember that alterations can do wonderful things to really make the dress fit YOU perfectly. It is such a long process but once you find the one, you will know (just like your FI ).
GL and keep us posted!