Okay I need to Vent!!! I'm sure my friends, family, and co-workers are all sick of hearing about my issues so I need to come here. I chose my best friend of 8 years to be my maid of honor. She lives in Florida and I moved to Illinois about 5 years ago. We have kept in touch throughout the years and nothing has changed with our friendship until now. Even though she was so far away that didn't bother me. I can be a control freak so doing all the work was okay with me. Especially since I had 14 months to plan this wedding. I probably waited about 4 months to even ask anyone to stand up in the wedding. I wanted to be sure that these people were coming to the wedding so they wouldnt feel obligated. My maid of honor was thrilled to be in the wedding and we talked on the phone and she helped me where she could. My wedding is May 31, 2014. My MOH has been hounding me for 3 months to find her a roommate. Everyone coming to the wedding has a roommate. This should not be my issue. But being a good friend I didn't say anything and asked around for her. Two weeks ago she finally realized that she was most likely going to have to room alone. Now all of a sudden the excuses start pouring in. 1.She is starting a new job in april and wont have pto for 90 days so she probaby cant come to the wedding now. (remember this is only 3 months before my wedding!!!!) Also side note... She already works at this hospital part time and is going full time. Shouldn't she already have the time requested off and just take the vacation no pay? I mean she did have 14 months to prepare for this wedding that she is the MOH in.
2. She thinks she has tachycardia (heart beat over 100bpm)
Did I mention that she couldn't tell me this herself but her mother had to facebook message me? Her mom said she can't come now because she can't fly with her "condition"
Well she did a holtar cardiac test and guess what!!!??? the test came back normal and nothing was wrong with her.
Oh and everytime she gives me an excuse she always ends it with my wedding party doesnt contact her back to see if she can room with someone.
This definately shows me that all it comes down to is she doesnt want to spend the money to room alone. Money shouldnt be an issue when she had 14 months to save up.
3. Now she wants to come for one day. She wants to fly in on my wedding day and leave the next morning. Did I mentiion that she doesn't want to pay for a room and just stay up all night. She said when everyone goes to bed she will just hang out in the hotel lobby.
I asked her why she didnt just stay for 3 days? She could come after work on fri and leave mon.
her response was that they needed her on the weekends cause it was the "busy" time. okay i get that but she would already be missing sat and i know she wasnt going back to work sunday after traveling and not sleeping. So once again it all boils down to $$$$$
heres the kicker...the straw that broke the camels back!!!
4. Since she wouldnt be paying for a hotel room she would have to pay $50 each way for transfers from hotel to the airport and vise versa.
She had the audacity to ask me to pay for these transfers instead of giving her a "materialistic" present.
All she has done is cause me stress and hasn't helped me at all. So I don't know why she even feels entitled to a present. Shouldn't I be the one to get a present? Granted I was going to but still who has the nerve to ask the bride to pay for anything?
My FI wants me to kick her out of the wedding party. I've definately been leaning towards that even though it will ruin our friendship. She has done nothing but be selfish and make everything about her. And if I even mention once how this is my day she says Im a "bridezilla"
Ive been biting my tongue the whole time. She has not seen any bridezilla yet.
Any thoughts on what I should do???