the photographer was a huge issue for me. I was totally not impressed by either photographer for the same reasons you mentioned. Last year I was actually shopping around for a coaching position and said that if I get it I would splurge and fly in my photog from home...Well lo and behold I got the job!!! So Im paying for my girl to stay the 3 nights (I actually ended up extending her stay a day bc it was cheaper to pay the $200 for the extra night then to have her fly in on a Friday) so a win win. I actually saved a little bit and she got an extended vacation. I know not everyone can do that... haha. I wouldn't have if it wasn't for the extra job!
Anyway, not sure what your budget is or if you are interested in getting a videographer but if you want both...look into companies that provide both services. You will avoid paying the outside vendor fee twice. Also, talk to the vendors and tell them about the fee. Usually they will offer discounts on their prices to help balance out the fee. Im now in a similar situation with the video. I really want the cinematic style but Caribe and matias don't do that. So I will have to pay the fee to bring someone else in. Dunno if we are going to be able to afford it.
Another suggestion...since u seem to have a situation similar to me with sticking to budget. I set up a registry on honeymoon wishes. My FI and I have been together for 5 years and already have an established life. We don't need household items nor do we have any place to put them. So the registry is set up so that everyone makes monetarty donations to our wedding/honeymoon. If your interested in checking it out u can look mine up. Honeymoonwishes.com- Tina Alicea
My shower is this weekend so we are hoping that the gifts will help us afford the videographer!