I'm sorry to hear about your situation. Planning a destination wedding has been the hardest, most hurtful & disappointing experience of my life. Ive dealt with similar issues to you...so I can def sympathize with you.
I have 3 girls that I consider best friends. One ive known the longest (17 years) complained about my original wedding date pick bc it was on her bday- moved it to april. She them complained about the dress 4 months after it had been picked and wanted another one chosen. We went out that weekend to pick a 2nd option bc they needed to be ordered ASAP. when rsvp/food choices were due she took a week to respond and then said due to financial issues it would only be her (no hubby or child) A few days later she messages me on facebook to tell me she's decided to not go to the mexico wedding. they have financial issues- car repairs and several other wedding this year. (im not even going to go into how upset/mad) I was. She said she still wanted to be involved in planning the shower and bach party. I also intend on having a small at home ceremony and she is supposed to attend that. she ordered a dress at my dress shop. She was supposed to call in her payment the Monday after the weekend that we picked it and never did. Now the dress is in and she refuses to get it. she claims that she ordered from another dress shop but i don't believe her. On Valentines day she announced she is pregnant and due in august. Soooo by my calculations...when all the dress issues, financial problems, and drama with her were going down...she knew she was pregnant and didn't intend on going.
she also caused problems with the bach party/shower...which is this weekend. My one BM moved to florida and is flying up for the weekend. she wanted to do both in one weekend to avoid flying up here twice. Problem maid was mad bc the night of the bach party she had a beef and beer to go to? Really? if its for a cause you really care about you can donate money or a raffle basket. Also with both parties coming up this weekend my other girls have informed me that Problem maid hasn't contributed in any way...financially or other. she hasn't said she's out completely but she won't participate.
I'm just blown away by her actions. when it came to her wedding I was the only person that showed up to her engagement party with a gift (a very expensive set of toasting flutes) Her MOH refused to do anything and no one could get in touch with her... I stepped up and headed all the planning. Not to mention you should have seen her ungrateful reaction the day of her shower.
Shes just one of the many issues ive come across with planning. Kara...its going to suck. People will complain. Some will book that you never expected...while those you thought were definite will make excuses. Its crazy...when you ask ppl to spend money to share in your day so many aren't willing...but if you did it at home they would flock to the reception for the open bar. I've spent so much time feeling bad and upset...but really it got me no where. You can't force people to care or to save...or to even keep their comments to themselves.
I invited 80 people. We will have 24 actually coming. It is going to be small & not what I ever dreamed of...but im going to make the best of it and create the best experience I can for the people that are making the trip. Its hard...especially in the beginning to handle the upset but like so many people have said to me...its about me and my fiancé. Its really everyone elses loss that wont make the trip.
and please...vent on here all you want. I find it very relieving to just kinda get it all out. Plus you are not alone and its always nice to know that someone out there is going through the same stuff.
Also, on a side note...900 for for days does seem a little steep. Now I know your a different season than me but my deluxe rooms were 635 for 3 nights plus 201 for an additional night.
who is your travel agent? are you using a GIVC agent? mine is and shes awesome. she even got 500 knocked off our family suite. if your not locking in with your current TA I would shop around. some have better relationships with the company and therefore I think get better rates. good luck