well said @acw271011!!!
@talicea7812 - I like the idea of having a small church wedding for people like your grandmother and cousin to attend. I've vetoed my mom on the AHR because to your point, we are already shelling out a nice chunk to get married in Mexico. I keep trying to get her to understand that DW are not as cheap as she thinks. If my 96 year old gran lived in my hometown or even close to where my fiance & I lived, I would maybe do something like a small ceremony & nice dinner so she could be a part of it. Since she doesn't, I don't see the point.
As for RSVPs, I plan to send my mom after my relatives because I already know they will be big pains. From our graduation parties, to my sister's showers & wedding, my mom has always had to call & fuss at them about not rsvping. They just "assume" you know whether or not they are coming, which is just baffling and inconsiderate.
Please don't let people's lack of consideration and support get you down! As my best friend says, at the end of the day, it will all work out and be everything you imagined and wanted it to be!