Feeling unimportant. Just wondering what some outside ppl may think...
I have 3 bridesmaids. all of which I've been in their weddings (one destination) with the other 2 weeks later.
I don't have many friends. I work 3 jobs and have a daughter. My life is busy to say the least. My fiancé and I invited 80 ppl to the wedding. some we knew def wouldn't make it, some we thought maybe and a few we thought definitely. Of the 80 ppl invited about 10 were my guests- My 3 bridesmaids, their significant others, my mom and a couple friends.
I am totally heartbroken. I sent out save the dates over a year before the wedding. About a week before all rooms are to be booked one of my bridesmaids tells me that she can't make it to the wedding!!! Mind you this a bridesmaid that I changed the wedding date and bridesmaid dress to accommodate. Her reason: Money is tight. Her husbands car needs repairs and her brother moved his wedding date from February...so it should have only been a couple wks from today to a couple weeks after my mine (which in my mind gives them more time to save.) Oh and they have a bunch of other weddings coming up in 2014. I have known this girl 15years! is there anyone else out there that would get angry about this? Her response is that I should understand. What I understand is that all the other upcoming weddings in 2014 are more important (of course I understand her brothers wedding is more important) im talking about the 5 others she's going to. I have attended 3 destination weddings. Each time I received a save the date I began saving. I planned and budgeted and sacrificed my dream car, my wedding savings, nights out...so much. Is it wrong to expect that in return?
Then there's my other 2 girls. Most ppl attending the wedding are staying at least 3 days. my 2 bm's are staying 2 and neither one is bringing the significant other! I know I should be thankful that they are even coming but when I planned this wedding...all I wanted was to have my "best friends" there. We are planning a big club night the day b4 they get there bc the majority of friends our age will be there...plus we don't want to do it Friday (the night b4 the wedding) so basically I will be surrounded by ppl who are there for my fiancé- not me. It really hurts. this is not the first time I've been let down by these girls- my grad party neither showed...my baby shower
just looking for outside opinions.