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I asked my best friend to be my MOH, and I'm kind of regretting it.. She really hasent helped me plan anything or even asked me how the planning is going. I know she's busy with school and stuff but it's just so frustrating! One of my BM has helped me way more and I just think she would make a better MOH! I don't want to hurt my best friends feelings but not sure what to do!! Any advice?

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this is why I didn't pick a MOH... I just did bridesmaids.  I don't think that its fair to honor one person over another.  friends usually know who's closest...I think putting a title to it hurts feelings.  I want everyone to feel equally important.

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I'm sorry!  I hate that it happened to you, it happened to me as well.  One of my BM's was a WC and she told me before the planning began that the people you think are going to be there for you won't be and those you don't think will.  I didn't think it would happen to me but it did.

 

She made the experience almost impossible and to this day our relationship isn't the same.  It's sad.  Hang in there.  Don't let that take away from the experience.

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I'm not exactly in this situation, but close.  I asked my two besties a year ago (right after getting engaged) to stand up with me.  A year later, I feel the relationship is strained with one of them.  We're not as close.  She just got engaged and I "officially" found out about it on FaceBook.  (It's a little more complicated than that).

 

Ugh.  It sucks. Can you have two MOH's?

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I asked my best friend to be my MOH, and I'm kind of regretting it.. She really hasent helped me plan anything or even asked me how the planning is going. I know she's busy with school and stuff but it's just so frustrating! One of my BM has helped me way more and I just think she would make a better MOH! I don't want to hurt my best friends feelings but not sure what to do!! Any advice?

 

I'm in the same boat.... I chose my sister as my MOH and am very disappointed.

 

Whenever I try to talk about my bridal shower or stagette, I get an "I don't really care" response.  She also doesn't want to come to any pre-wedding appointments - getting her to come BM dress shopping was like pulling teeth!  Luckily my Mom is willing to step in if she drops the ball.  Really don't understand why she's being like this... she's not married, so when she does need a MOH she'll understand how much it sucks if you have a MOH who's not into it. 

 

Also, when I went dress shopping she showed up to the appointment hungover, and I could hear her in the waiting area complaining about how long my appointment was taking. 

 

UGH.... as if being a bride isn't stressful enough, eh?

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this is why I didn't pick a MOH... I just did bridesmaids.  I don't think that its fair to honor one person over another.  friends usually know who's closest...I think putting a title to it hurts feelings.  I want everyone to feel equally important.

 

I love the way you think about it.  We have an idea of who we want in our wedding party, but haven't asked yet mainly because our wedding is so far away.  I always wanted my best friend to be my MOH, but she's not really the planning type and can be scatter-brained.  After reading this I think I'm not going to pick a MOH.  I love all my friends and I don't feel right about picking one to be more special than the others or cause any sort of drama.

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I love the way you think about it.  We have an idea of who we want in our wedding party, but haven't asked yet mainly because our wedding is so far away.  I always wanted my best friend to be my MOH, but she's not really the planning type and can be scatter-brained.  After reading this I think I'm not going to pick a MOH.  I love all my friends and I don't feel right about picking one to be more special than the others or cause any sort of drama.

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this is why I didn't pick a MOH... I just did bridesmaids.  I don't think that its fair to honor one person over another.  friends usually know who's closest...I think putting a title to it hurts feelings.  I want everyone to feel equally important.

Good Idea...I'm having a hard time picking and I don't want to hurt peoples feelings

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I'm thinking about picking two MOHs, that way they basically act as back-up for eachother and I don't have as much reliance on one person, hence am not as disappointed when they aren't able/wiling to help

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