First day on the site

[jandl2013]

Jenn, this isn't my first time getting married.  My first wedding was NUTS...I refuse to go down that path again or allow anyone or anything to take my mind away from the point of our day.  Though it was stressful planning this and trying to make decisions, etc., I feel like it's time for me to enjoy this planning phase and be comfortable knowing that I've done what I can and the rest is not something I can control.  I don't want to be upset during a time i'm supposed to be enjoying things.  It's hard sometimes to keep things in perspective, but it's worth it to not be all stressed and nuts which I've already experienced..LOL

[Jennkn87]

Trying our hardest to get to 150! LOL 

[scolen]

love how you see it on the second time got to be happy about the planning

[Jennkn87]

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Originally Posted by jandl2013 
 

Jenn, this isn't my first time getting married.  My first wedding was NUTS...I refuse to go down that path again or allow anyone or anything to take my mind away from the point of our day.  Though it was stressful planning this and trying to make decisions, etc., I feel like it's time for me to enjoy this planning phase and be comfortable knowing that I've done what I can and the rest is not something I can control.  I don't want to be upset during a time i'm supposed to be enjoying things.  It's hard sometimes to keep things in perspective, but it's worth it to not be all stressed and nuts which I've already experienced..LOL

Understandable!!! You deserve that! I am trying my hardest to not get stressed. As long as everyone makes it down there and enjoys there stay...I won't let little things get to me as much! It's an opportunity some people don't get!...I'm just overly glad I found someone that agreed with my destination wedding ideas! I don't get the point of spending tons of money on a huge home ceremony, especially when you end up not remembering much of the day anyways! I'm all about having our closest family and friends there having a blast and then having a little celebration at home for the rest of our friends/family. I'm always going to have it in the back of my head that i'm nervous as HELL that something will go wrong sometime over the next year and it won't turn out as planned....BUT I'm pushing that aside for now!! Hopefully I can continue to do so! I'll have alot of weight off my shoulders when I get my dang date set!!!! 

[Jennkn87]

There are just SOOOO MANY CHOICES! Thats my main stressor right now...oh who am I kidding...it's all stressing me....I go from one thing to the other, change my mind over and over, and then realize...I have to stop!...and just ENJOY the process!! I've got a whole YEAR to worry about it!! 

[scolen]

lmao join the club 

[jandl2013]

Just keep posting.  Scolen you're not to far.  Jenn we all covered a lot of ground today.

 

We were just too young the first time I got married, young and not ready and I had no clue how to plan a wedding properly.  I know much better all the way around this time.

[Jennkn87]

Don't forget to let us know your extra special secrets and advice on what you've learned!! 

[scolen]

anytime lol 

[jandl2013]

Are you talking about what I've learned regarding marriage?? If so then here's my two cents:

 

Get marital and financial counseling prior to getting married...the sooner you begin after setting your wedding date, the better.

 

TALK, TALK, AND TALK....no such thing as over communicating. You should know what you both want from each other and the marriage.

 

Kiss, cuddle often.

 

Tell them you love them often.

 

Support each other emotionally.

 

Don't involve a lot of ppl in your relationship.

 

Continue to date even after you get married

 

Pick and choose your battles...they are not all worth fighting about.