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Shan's LONG overdue Moon and Sun Palace Wedding Planning Thread


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Hello ladies!

After some persuasion from recent brides (cough ChelseaCat802), I am posting my LONG overdue planning thread!

I was married last year- November 23, 2012 and could not have done everything I did for my wedding without this website! I had been a member of the website almost a year prior to getting engaged as I knew it was coming at some point and I am quite a planner and need to be prepared.   I like to think that I did a really good job budgeting for our wedding and took full advantage of the free perks that Palace resorts offers.  With my fiance just graduating Law school and having to start paying his student loans and buying a new house in Oct 2012- we could not afford to go all out and pay thousands of dollars for lounge furniture and mariachi bands and all those extras. I kept my head on straight and only bought what was necessary and splurged on the few things I really wanted.  In the end I do not regret a single thing- getting married in Mexico was the BEST decision we ever made- our group of 41 people had the time of their lives and we are returning back to Moon Palace for our 1 year anniversary in 2 months! We did not get any “honeymoon†time as we stayed 7 nights with our families and the majority of our friends stayed 5 nights.  So I think our anniversary trip alone is well deserved- or at least that is what I tell my husband! :)

We got engaged on Christmas Day 2011 after dating 7 ½ years!  After the holidays and my fiances birthday I started kicking it into high gear and picking a date for our wedding.  We met with a local travel agent and set our date by the end of January 2012. I already knew I wanted to get married at Sun Palace and have us and our guests stay at Moon Palace because my fiance had been to Moon and loved it and with our group of 41 people I knew that Moon would be fun for everyone and people could sneak away from the group if they wanted and make it their own vacation.  I did not want my wedding at Moon Palace because I wanted the beautiful blue water that the “hotel zone†offers and I also did not want to share my wedding with other brides that day so that is why I went with my wedding at Sun.

I knew I had to order my save the dates right away and get them mailed out ASAP as the room block rate for the rooms was only good until the end of February.  I knew I wanted to do postcard Save the Dates to save money on postage so I went to good ol trusty Vistaprint and created our Save the dates there and sucked it up and paid for rush shipping- which I couldn't complain as this was when they still had 100 postcards free! 

 

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For our wedding invitations I waited until the “normal†8 weeks to mail out the invitations as I already knew who was coming and who wasnâ€t because they had to put their deposit down for the hotel in Feb. I did have my fiancés aunt and uncle decide to come in August and 3 couples cancel after they put down their initial deposit but other than that it was nice knowing all along about how many people were coming so I could purchase the correct amount of items for everyone.
For everyone that was making the trip to Mexico with us, I made boarding pass invitations with the assembly line help of my bridesmaids (fun weekend project! Since we only had to make 25- it took us less than 2 hours to assemble all of these!) I adapted a combination of templates from these website and went to Office Max and had them printed as the paper I used for the outer envelope was incredibly thick and there was no way I was going to be able to print it myself. I ended spending about 2 hours at Office Max on a Friday night waiting to have these printed as they had a HUGE order in front of me but I ended up getting all the invitations printed and cut for $8! Canâ€t beat that! :) I made “normal†invitations on Vistaprint for the people that I knew were not attending the wedding but we had sent a Save the Date to.

 

 

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Attire
So I started dress shopping MLK weekend and planned on taking months to find a dress but after going to 4 different bridal stores the last dress I had tried on at Davidâ€s Bridal I fell in love with. I went to Davidâ€s on Sunday with my mom, sister and a bridesmaid as they were having their giant dress sale so it was very crowded but thankfully I had an AWESOME girl at my appointment that caught onto my “style†very quickly. I knew I wanted a lace dress and I didnâ€t want a strapless dress as everyone has strapless and I wanted to be different. So after trying on about 15 dresses at Davidâ€s I knew I really liked my dress but I wanted to go to other bridal shops just to make sure there was nothing else I liked better. So Monday I took my mother in law and we went to 3 other bridal shops.. I tried on a ton more gorgeous dresses but none of them were wowing me and I didnâ€t get the “beach feel†with them- they all seemed too formal for me not to mention they weighed 20 pounds! I did fall in love with an Allure dress that I could not afford but I ended up buying a knock off on ebay for my trash the dress dress! :) So after shopping with my mother in law I went back to Davidâ€s that night and Said yes to the dress with my mom and sister!! I cried so I knew it was the one! :)

 

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Trash the Dress Dress

 

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I ordered my jewelry from a wonderful lady on Etsy. I knew I wanted blue jewelry for a pop of color and since blue was one of my wedding colors and my husband was wearing a blue tie it all coordinated nicely! I originally had a necklace in blue like my bridesmaids and blue earrings to match but 3 weeks before my wedding I decided that jewelry wasnâ€t “fancy†enough to be my bridal jewelry so I did some etsy searching. Her shop is called sugarplumcottage

 

 

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Shoes

My husbandâ€s grandma made my hair flower for me as I wanted something in a champagne color and she volunteered to make it for me! She also altered my wedding and trash the dress dress- she was great and saved me a few hundred dollars! :)
My shoes were from JcPenny- I knew I wanted wedges because I was getting married in the sand and I wanted orange since I was getting yellow shoes for my bridesmaids- I went to the mall one night after work with one of my bridesmaids and just so happen to stumble upon these shoes and went home and ordered them in my size! They were high enough that I did not have to get my dress hemmed- double bonus as I have this problem constantly (I am 5 foot 1 ½ inches tall lol).

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Garter-

I originally ordered a St Louis Blues (my husband is a HUGE fan and again- itâ€s blue my wedding color! ) on etsy and had a horrible experience -she lost my first garter and them mailed me a 2nd one that looked nothing like the picture- needless to say her shop no longer exits. So after a search on etsy and not being able to find one I really liked that wasnâ€t outrageously expensive I did a Google search and found this great store in CA- www.letsdancegarters.com/‎. She was great to work with and had my garters delivered very quickly!

 

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Men's attire

We bought my fiancés suit from Menâ€s Warehouse. We got the groomsmenâ€s linen pants from Old Navy, sandals from Kohls, they all bought their own white button down and belt and then we bought my fiancés, groomsmen and my dadâ€s tie from The Tie Bar online. It took us awhile to find orange ties as my husband wanted 100% silk ties and solid bright orange ties in 100% silk are kind of hard to find!

 

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Bridesmaid's Attire

 

Bridesmaids dresses were from Davidâ€s as well as they received a % off their dresses since I bought mine from there. I knew I wanted the royal blue- “horizon†color after seeing that the orange dresses wouldnâ€t match my wedding dress as well(made my dress look like it had a orange tint to it with my champagne color underlay). I had 8 girls- all different shapes and sizes so I wanted them all to feel comfortable and pick out a dress they would wear again so they all picked out their own style. I bought their shoes from DSW as part of their gift- their jewelry and hair flower were also part of their gift- necklaces were from Etsy- shop called kayemcj . She was GREAT to work with and made a custom royal blue necklace for me as well. Their earrings were from charming charlies- love that store- super cheap jewelry in EVERY color imaginable!
Hair flowers- I originally planned on making these myself.. but October rolled around- we just bought our house and I was running out of time- so back to Etsy I went..I found these flowers pretty cheap and worked with the shop owner to get 8 ordered and shipped before we left for our wedding. She was a sweetie as well and even threw in 2 extra flowers just in case one got lost or broke. Thankfully we didnâ€t need them but it was good to know just in case we had extras. She no longer has an etsy shop but here is her website- www.craniumdecor.com I ordered orange hydrangea flowers with pearls and metal combs. If you need a closer up picture- let me know.

 

 

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My fiancé picked out my wedding band and engagement ring with no help from me! I had told him that I wanted a band with diamonds on it- he searched for 3 months until he found the perfect ring and I think he did a great job! We ordered his ring from Kohls- they have a great wedding band selection for men- we went into the store to figure out what size and style he wanted- went online and ordered 2 rings and then returned the one he didnâ€t want. I think we paid about $70 for his ring! :)

 

 

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Pre-travel brochure

I made and sent out pre-travel brochures about a month before the wedding to get everyone excited- for my out of the St Louis area friends (about 5) I also mailed their luggage tags with these. I made these from Vistaprint as well.

 

 

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Bags – I purchased the $1 bags from Old Navy when I had 20% or 30% off coupons so I got then for 70 or 80 cents! I gave 1 bag per couple and then the single people got their own bag. In the bag I bought tumblers for everyone from Wal-Mart- I bought 3 or 4 every time I went to Wal-mart for a couple months so I didnâ€t spend a fortune at one time. I ordered waterproof initial decals from Etsy so that everyone would be able to tell their mugs apart as I had about 5 different styles. I ordered white decals for the girls and black for the guys. The online shop I bought these from is ACJInspirations. Again, she was great to work with and attached instructions on how to apply the decals- the first one wasnâ€t the best but I got the hang of it after the first couple! :) I also put gum in the bags and their luggage tags (made the inserts on Vistaprint from business cards and purchased the luggage tags from Michaelâ€s with my 40% off coupons!) I handed out all but 3 of our bags prior to leaving for Mexico. I didnâ€t want to have to pack an extra suitcase to lug down all of these bags! Thankfully my brother in law had room in his suitcase to shove the 3 bags I didnâ€t get to hand out prior to the trip! I didnâ€t think it was necessary to give everyone a bunch of stuff that they had probably already packed (as I supplied a packing list with my pre-travel brochure). I HIGHLY recommend the tumbler cups though- everyone at our resort was jealous of our cups! 

 

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Starfish-

 

After seeing some awesome starfish aisle decorations and seeing what people charged to make them- I decided I would make them myself! I ordered the starfish on Ebay and the raffia from Nashville Wraps online. I can send you instructions on how I made them if you want!

 

 

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Table runners/chair sashes- I purchased orange organza table runner s and chair sashes online from efavormart when they were having a 20% off sale.

 

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I was feeling sad that I was losing this friendship and that spark with him was gone. By the time it was gone, A was "ready" to meet up with me to discuss life and the wedding. When I said I lost spark with him, I really did. I knew that he was ready to meet up with me because it was convenient for him. For example, he wanted to meet up with me because he was driving past my house or was in the area visiting his relative. If he was not doing those things he would not want to meet up with me. Needless to say, every time he kept asking, I just said I was busy. I think deep down something was not right between me and A but he does not want to acknowledge it. I know that W had FOMO (Fear Of Missing Out) because that's what he is like. Around the end of last year, rather than messaging me about the DW he went behind my back and asked my SO. He was scared of asking me because he knows if he asked me, I would literally get angry at him. He's nosey and was happy enough to be part of the groomsmen but he listened to A. W didn't asked once but twice to mg SO. My SO just said that she was busy and should ask me about the wedding, not her. W did messagee but not about the wedding plans. I felt this was a sly move by his part. If anything not having A and W there was a blessing in disguise. I met up with the other 4 groomsmen over one weekend and it turns out it was the most fun we all have had for a while. It was as if we continued from the previous conversations in the past as if nothing has changed. I am so glad and proud of this group of groomsmen and glad the other 2 dropped out. The suit fitting went really well and we hung out again to see whether the suits altered fitted or not.  Unfortunately my SO UK group, 5 out of 6 declined the invite. Only 1 accepted it. The other 5 had reasons ranging from good ones to poorer ones 😅 As long one of them turned up then it was good enough for us. My SO's bridesmaids also were amazing. No problems caused whatsoever and they were really excited that our wedding was abroad too! To make things work out before our DW, myself and SO planned out 2 weekends for both groomsmen and bridesmaids to hang out before the DW. We did this so we would not encounter any awkwardness for the first time in DW. Lo and behold, everyone got to know each other and we really are happy that the wedding party weekend went smoothly. I will keep this ambiguous because I do not want A and his group finding out. I got married to my SO this year. What time and month? I will leave this intentionally blank. The wedding itself was everything we have expected. The wedding planner was amazing. The photographer was also amazing too, so glad we went for him. The sneak peak photos are absolutely great, couldn't imagine that the photos turned out like that. The good itself was okay could be better but could be worse. The first dance went relatively well although my SO managed to cock up s move which only I know hahahaha. The wedding ceremony itself went really quickly. I was a bag of nerves to which one of the groomsmen bought the groomsmen a shot each to calm everyone down. It did calm me down for a little bit but the nerves started again with the speeches. I got emotional throughout the speeches. I was not expecting the tear up with the best man speech at all. My speech was meant for my SO but for some reason everyone in the room also cried as well 😂 The all night dancing and fun was the best bit. When every serious part was done, I was able to stop being nervous! The fun went through the whole night and I can see everyone really enjoyed themselves. It was as if myself and SO correctly guess that lockdown restrictions would end. Everyone was thankful that they managed to take part in the DW because they all have been stranded in the country for 3 years! Do I regret having a DW? Hell no! Although it was a smaller party everything was all under control. Everyone had a great time!  More information about my UK group. Some of them congratulated us which was nice to hear. Those congratulated us, I can keep contact. They knew it was difficult coming to DW. At least they are mature enough to say something about it and they did not get the invite. On the other hand, A and W kept constantly monitoring my account for updates along with my SO. It got to the point that W really FOMO that he I followed our stories/posts. A on the other hand is completely out of order. He was invited to DW but made it really uncomfortable to me that he was not happy with DW. During that week, he went on holiday to Spain. I get that Spain is much more cheaper than my DW but it still is annoying. A also said before that he has a few weddings to attend during our DW month. He has not attended any weddings which makes me think that he has lied to me. A and W has lied to me saying it was costly for them to come to my DW. They have both bought PlayStation 5 and went to many designer outlets. If they are so stumped on money why go and buy things? It just shows that they are not good friends at all. Overall good DW. I do not regret it one bit because I know if I did it in the UK, the experience will be a lot different. The UK definitely not as scenic as my DW! 🤣    
    • Hi ! Myself and partner got engaged 7 months ago and we quite quickly asked our friends who we wanted in our wedding party (e.g bridesmaids, MOH and best men etc) who all agreed. After searching many English venues we have decided that we want to marry abroad, our dream is Mexico. We have been and priced this up today and we are incredibly happy. So we have put this forward to our friends and family who we really want there and now we are facing issues. My MOH and my partners Best man are together with a child, they now will not come unless we change to Spain or Greece. My brother, his wife and nephew can only come in one set week which isn't the time we want to marry and also will not come to Mexico. And both our Grandmother's won't come to Mexico.   What do we do? Do we carry on and go to Mexico with the people who will come or do we change our dreams and go to Spain or Greece?  Thoughts please, I'm getting to the point where I don't even want to marry as I'm fed up of friends and family ruining our ideas and dreams with their opinions. 
    • What purpose does a ring actually have? I think they look nice, but to me, wearing a ring doesn’t mean a damn thing. I’m engaged. I’m in a happy, healthy and strong relationship. And to be fully honest if you are ever in a relationship that you’d be willing to risk because of the price of an engagement ring, your partner could do better.
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