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#1 TuffLuv

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    Posted 03 September 2013 - 10:27 AM

    My FI and I are planning on having an AHR a month or two after we return from our DW and although our son (the "bestman") and my niece (the "maid of honor") will be present we would like a kid free (as possible) reception. However, I'm not sure how to word it on our save the date/invitations without offending anyone. Any suggestions from those who have planned their AHR and also chose this option would be greatly appreciated.

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    #2 ChelseaCat802

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      Posted 03 September 2013 - 10:34 AM

      I'm in the same boat! I'm putting "adult only reception" on my response card - NOT on the invite itself. I've read a bunch of mixed reviews! I'm afraid if I only include the adult names on the envelope - that's not enough to hint only THEY are invited. I feel your pain. No kids. Haha.



      #3 TuffLuv

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        Posted 03 September 2013 - 10:41 AM

        It's crazy, you don't want to offend anyone but at the same time it's your event. If all else fails I will put adult only. However, I want a clever way of saying it without straight out saying it. That's the "people pleaser" in me. It doesn't come out ofen but every now and again it does. LOL

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        #4 ChelseaCat802

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          Posted 03 September 2013 - 10:48 AM

          I'm pretty sure we feel EXACTLY the same way. I would label the invitations as you normally would - and then maybe on your save the date - put "adult only reception." I had a hard time deciding where to put it since we can't really say "adult reception to follow ceremony." I have two really close friends that are currently pregnant and when our AHR happens (January) their babies will be a month or two old. I told specifically they could bring their babies, but that's it. They won't be able to come to our AHR unless they bring them because they're so young.

           

          Here is how I did it on my RSVP post card. What do you think?



          #5 TuffLuv

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            Posted 03 September 2013 - 11:31 AM

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            I'm pretty sure we feel EXACTLY the same way. I would label the invitations as you normally would - and then maybe on your save the date - put "adult only reception." I had a hard time deciding where to put it since we can't really say "adult reception to follow ceremony." I have two really close friends that are currently pregnant and when our AHR happens (January) their babies will be a month or two old. I told specifically they could bring their babies, but that's it. They won't be able to come to our AHR unless they bring them because they're so young.

             

            Here is how I did it on my RSVP post card. What do you think?

             

            OMG!!!!I I freaking love it. That is uber cute and creative. Also, I would have done the same (for my friends with new babies). Honestly, we don't mind a few kids and weI understand those who may not be able to get a sitter. However, what we don't want is a bunch of kids running around and not being supervised. Unfortantely, past experiences have shown that when parents get in big group settings they sometimes have a tendency to let their kids loose. Ain't nobody got time for that. LOL Beside we'll be drinking and I want everyone to have a good time and not feel restricted by the presence of kids. Our kid will be supervised by his grandparents and his mom. HaHa.

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            April 12, 2014


            #6 ChelseaCat802

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              Posted 03 September 2013 - 11:47 AM

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              OMG!!!!I I freaking love it. That is uber cute and creative. Also, I would have done the same (for my friends with new babies). Honestly, we don't mind a few kids and weI understand those who may not be able to get a sitter. However, what we don't want is a bunch of kids running around and not being supervised. Unfortantely, past experiences have shown that when parents get in big group settings they sometimes have a tendency to let their kids loose. Ain't nobody got time for that. LOL Beside we'll be drinking and I want everyone to have a good time and not feel restricted by the presence of kids. Our kid will be supervised by his grandparents and his mom. HaHa.

               

              Thank you! Yes totally agree - I just hate kids running around and taking favors off tables without supervision. If they are confined to a carseat - I'm fine with that :) Haha.

              #7 TuffLuv

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                Posted 03 September 2013 - 12:04 PM

                LOL, I feel the EXACT same way. Not to mention every PERSON (adult or child) has to be accounted for in regards to food.

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                Punta Cana, Dominican Republic

                April 12, 2014


                #8 ChelseaCat802

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                  Posted 03 September 2013 - 12:27 PM

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                  LOL, I feel the EXACT same way. Not to mention every PERSON (adult or child) has to be accounted for in regards to food.

                  Yes you are exactly right! I'm at like 45/pp and do not want to have to pay for kids also - and my venue only accommodates 200 people, and that's pretty much where I'm at even without kids!



                  #9 TuffLuv

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                    Posted 03 September 2013 - 12:37 PM

                    That was the problem my FI and I were running into when he was pro kids. Now we're on the same page. So I think we will be good.

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                    #10 maggie123

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                      Posted 11 September 2013 - 10:13 PM

                      That is really a tough part and you made it look so easy. But still it is thought to be rude to do so. :)






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