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Went Dress shopping for the first time...not really into it!

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#11 vale

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    Posted 22 October 2007 - 11:35 AM

    I am just so hard on myself and I'm so afraid too that fiance won't like it....
    I think your fiance will love whatever you wear because your wearing it

    #12 NYJen

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      Posted 22 October 2007 - 11:56 AM

      Oh Michelle, you are TOTALLY not alone. I too was not a fan of shopping for my dress. The first few times I went shopping, I hated it and was depressed afterwards. My mom kept pressing me to visit different salons and try on different dresses, which I did. All the dress styles that I really liked, looked terrible on me. That was really frustrating. But then after trying on a lot of different styles, I finally found a bunch that I really liked and the ONE that I loved. You'll get more into it when you find styles that suit you better. Remember, it's not about what the dress looks like on the hanger, it about what it looks like on you. What designers & styles have you looked at?

      I picture you in something simple and flowy (not poofy or too traditional.) Can you post pics of what you're thinking about?

      #13 jajajaja

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        Posted 22 October 2007 - 04:24 PM

        Dress shopping was hard. Especially since a lot of the dresses I thought looked great on the hanger looked horrible on me.

        I agree with Jen. What type of dress are you looking for? Maybe you have a designer you like. Find a store that carries them and start there. I loved Maggie dresses so that's what I did. I went to a store that had a lot of Maggie dresses and it was really easy after that. I still haven't technically had my dress on. I saw it online, fell in love and tried on similiar dresses before I ordered it. I couldn't find anything I loved more, so I ordered the dress I saw online. It should be here soon so I can't wait to finally try it on!

        Good luck. Just be patient. It's not the worst thing you will have to go through. Kids & labor come next. lol
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        #14 katrina


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          Posted 22 October 2007 - 04:59 PM

          try going to a nordstrom or a neiman marcus or some other upscale department store so you don't feel so weird in a bridal salon. that's what i did... i bought a gorgeous calvin klein bridal dress in nordstrom instead of going to a place like david's bridal. it's a much more low key experience.

          #15 JaimeLynne

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            Posted 22 October 2007 - 06:47 PM

            I'm pretty stressed about going dress shopping and I haven't even started. I think what you're feeling is completely normal. Good luck, we're all here for you!

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            #16 amyh


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              Posted 22 October 2007 - 08:20 PM

              Michelle I felt the same way. I didn't get excited until I found something I liked, actually, until I tried on the veil! But honestly, I went looking about 3 times alone because I just wanted to get it over with quick.

              Odd because I always thought that this would be the best part!

              #17 michelle08

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                Posted 22 October 2007 - 10:28 PM

                Well about a month ago, I tore out a few I liked from the bridal magazines but this visit was impromtu so I didn't have them with me or anything. I am going to go through them and maybe make an appointment at a salon for this weekend while it's still somewhat fresh in my mind and I have a little bit of extra time. I am going by myself though this time i think....

                The thing is that I like to try stuff on without a sales person breathing down my neck...I feel to rushed to decide if I like it or not and if I stare at myself too long in it I feel like I'm being weird and taking too long.

                I didn't know that nordstrom had bridal gowns in their stores. i thought only online? I wonder if all the stores have them? I will try and find some online and show you guys.

                Definately something simple Jen. Nothing too traditional and nothing too low cut and nothing too form fitting (big hips).

                #18 foxytv

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                  Posted 22 October 2007 - 10:37 PM

                  Originally Posted by michelle08
                  Nothing too traditional and nothing too low cut and nothing too form fitting (big hips).
                  You are too funny! We all feel that way I think. I actually was very surprised with the dress I picked b/c it was TOTALLY different than what I envisioned wearing. You will find the perfect dress and will be so relieved!!!

                  #19 coreyphil

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                    Posted 23 October 2007 - 01:10 AM

                    Originally Posted by akh
                    i went by myself, and just bought it like i'd buy a pair of jeans. i didn't do the whole gaggle of girls thing that most brides do. just wasn't me! hang in there - you'll find what you're looking for!
                    I absolutely agree! At first I felt kind of bad and would try on things that the sales girls would bring ... but then, I quickly got used to saying - ummm... no it's just not me. I went to 5 different places and was starting to get depressed about the whole thing! But - once I tried on the dress I eventually bought - I knew it was the one. I also loved the little shop that I found it in ... they were very low-key, no appointments, down-to-earth and fun.

                    Do you know what kind of dress you're looking for?

                    Hang in there ... you'll find it!

                    #20 starchild



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                      Posted 23 October 2007 - 02:08 AM

                      I'm with you. In retrospect dress shopping was the worst part about wedding planning for me. I went alone and still hated it. I tried on 3 dresses at one shop and picked one of those the same day - the first and last day I looked for a dress. It fit the occasion, wasn't too formal or too casual, and it wasn't too expensive. That was it.

                      I didn't get the feeling that this is the dress I have been waiting my whole life for, but then again I was never the type of girl to fantasize about my wedding as a kid. I loved my dress and am glad I opted to get a corset back wedding dress rather than the white sundress I swore I would wear. But I didn't put a lot of stock into trying on dress after dress until I felt like I thought I was supposed to feel.

                      Go with your instincts and it will work out.

                      BTW, if you call Nordstrom's they'll tell you which locations have the bridal salon in store, but beware - Nordie's salespeople like to get in the fitting room with you too...lol

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