My parents divorced when I was very young. Both moving on â€“ my dad with his girlfriend who has one son and my mom 6 years later with her late husband and his two kids. I lived with my mom and my late step-fathers kids were older and out of the house.
I did family vacations with my dad and his girlfriend and the weekends here and there that I spent with my dad. Since the age of about 14 I havenâ€™t seen her son much. In the last decade I can count on one hand with fingers left over how many times I have seen him.
Now that the save the dates are out, and people are booking for our wedding â€“ my dadâ€™s gf wants her son AND his girlfriend to come. I have had to have the uncomfortable conversation three times now that I cannot accommodate anyone that was not on the guest list, and that he was not invited and cannot book under our room block, and if he comes to any wedding festivities there will be no chair or meal for him and he & his gf are not to take food out of my guests mouths by attending. Each conversation getting more and more frank than the one before. My fianc© and I are paying for the whole wedding ourselves, not asking for money from anyone because of the cost.
This is really starting to take a toll because I feel like my dad is going rouge on the guest list and the stress is the exact reason why we chose to leave the country to not have guest list creep. My dads gf is acting weird around me now saying that Iâ€™m excluding him. Well I didnâ€™t even know his gfâ€™s name until this situation came up.
We made the difficult decision to NOT include my step family because my immediate family is large on its own. Now I find out that he IS booking, but not part of our room block (Iâ€™m not border control, I canâ€™t control where he goes on vacation).
I guess Iâ€™m wondering â€“ has anyone else encountered this problem? Did you end up with wedding crashers?