I also agree with someones comment above...about if ppl want to share the day with us they should be there. My bridesmaid and friend of 15 years recently backed out of going to Mexico. I can't help but be a little bitter bc we gave plenty of notice. I don't want her to see pics.
also, we intend to do a small at home ceremony so family who has legit reasons to not be there can witness us marrying and the overall look will still be a surprise the day of.