Posted 28 August 2013 - 01:01 PM
Hi, I am in a bit of a dilemma and would really appreciate some advice. My fiance and i live in canada where i've been an international student for the last few years. We decided to have thw wedding in india since it will be a lot cheaper and all of my immediate and extended family is there. However, my mother-in-law to be's health has not been too good and my fiance's family thinks it wont be a good idea for her to come to India and so wont be a good idea to have the wedding in india since we cant do it without her. I personally feel she will be fine since she has a respiratory disorder triggered by strong smells and wherw the wedding is supposed to happen is in the mountains with really clean air. I'm afraid having the wedding in canada will be too expensive, something me and my family cannot afford. My parents had already applied to get a visitor's visa and got refused on financial grounds. It will be too expensive for my family to fly everyone out to canada since my parents dont make too much money and the best scenario will be that just my mom and dad will be able to come. I dont know if i can get married without my siblings and extended family. Fiance's immediate and extended family are well off and they can all come to india since it wont be tooexpensive fir them. But without the mom in law, there cant be a wedding in India either. I feel selfish for wanting the wedding in India because i'Ve always dreamed of getting married there surrounded by my family and loved ones but at the same time i cannot compromise mum in law's health. I cant be pushing the india agenda too much because i will seem inconsiderate about mom in law's health but having the wedding in canada is alao impractical and beyond our budget. I would appre iate your advice and comments!