Originally Posted by SimplyMV
I'm new to the forums, although I've lurked for the last 2 months or so. I have been engaged since March 7th of this year and am very excited to start planning. We signed our contract with Azul Beach about 2 wks ago but things are at a bit of a stand still right now. My family is very traditional and not very open to new things, so as you can imagine they were not very excited about us wanting to have a destination wedding. My mother in particular has been a bit of a pain by being super negative about everything. Have any of you experienced this? How did you handle it? Did things get better? Thanks!
I experienced a bit of the opposite. My family was thrilled when I told them that FI had proposed, and their immediate reaction was: "Where are WE going?". They actually sounded a bit disappointed about the wedding being in my hometown! LOL We are now having a destination wedding, and their only issue is setting a date and location.
However, I can totally sympathize with what you're going through. I think your best move is to continue to be very positive about the benefits of a destination wedding (great food, warm weather, luxury resort) and how this is really what will make YOU and FI happy. People keep forgetting that it's not all about them, and perhaps those things will remind them of what's important. Another thing you can do is to start the party early. By that I mean: create excitement with a great wedding website to show everyone all of the fun things that are going to happen! Talk about your wedding team and your plans for your fabulous weekend! Talk about how your resort chain is known for great food. (Leave some surprises but hint at them if you want.) I think people will eventually come around, and if they all don't---you will still be marrying your love. At the end of the day, your FI is the only one that is absolutely matters to have your special day. I hope this helps!