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#1 candydan

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    Posted 30 May 2013 - 12:34 AM

    My fiance and my dad think my salary is low but work too hard.so they hope me to quit it and get married, but as a woman, I don't want to be a burden in the home after getting married ,What i want is to keep the economic independence, how can I convince my father and fiance?

    #2 Miss J

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      Posted 30 May 2013 - 01:43 AM

      If you like your job, keep working! As you say, I agree that economic independence is good and I think its worth holding on to.

      It really is your decision though, isnt it? Why would you have to convince them? Sorry, dont mean to offend here, but is sounds really old fashioned and patriarchal.

      If YOU are happy with it, maybe you can come to a compromise? Maybe you could work part time instead of full time? 

      Some people are happy staying at home the whole time, being "trophy wifes" or ladies who lunch which Im sure can be very fulfilling for some people. Others like the routine of having a job and the all important economic independence.



      #3 ucfjennifer

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      Posted 30 May 2013 - 02:09 PM

      I prefer the economic independence of working and contributing to the household income. If you enjoy what you do, keep doing it!! If you don't, take him up on that offer until you find something you do like.

      #4 candydan

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        Posted 02 June 2013 - 11:33 PM

        as my job,i am not crazy about it,but i think i can not reply my husband and my family ,as  a adult,it is my duty to feed myself.

        Originally Posted by Miss J 

        If you like your job, keep working! As you say, I agree that economic independence is good and I think its worth holding on to.

        It really is your decision though, isnt it? Why would you have to convince them? Sorry, dont mean to offend here, but is sounds really old fashioned and patriarchal.

        If YOU are happy with it, maybe you can come to a compromise? Maybe you could work part time instead of full time? 

        Some people are happy staying at home the whole time, being "trophy wifes" or ladies who lunch which Im sure can be very fulfilling for some people. Others like the routine of having a job and the all important economic independence.



        #5 candydan

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          Posted 02 June 2013 - 11:44 PM

          Originally Posted by ucfjennifer 

          I prefer the economic independence of working and contributing to the household income. If you enjoy what you do, keep doing it!! If you don't, take him up on that offer until you find something you do like.

          agree with u very much,thank u






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