Hello! Fist can I say I LOVE THIS SITE!!! I am having a DW to Italy with just Immediate Family and their SO's. I initially went to the Knot to ask for advice and was SHAMED!!!! I felt like I was in High School again and I am 50! I was told that since I chose a DW that there was "NO PARTY FOR YOU!" Completely bullied even on my answers to other posts. They stalked me to bully me. Again...I LOVE THIS SITE!
Anyway, moving forward, I am getting married in October in Italy with my and my FH's family. It was originally a family vacation and when we decided to get married we thought it would be perfect to add it to the vacation itinerary. The family (15 of us...parents, kids, brother and all of their spouses or SO's and their kids) had already been involved with the vacation planning and we had our plane tickets and room reservations. Once the wedding was added we just told everyone. I didn't think invitations at this point were necessary. I have since decided to send everyone who is coming a box of travel accessories (money belt, TSA locks for luggage, blow up head pillow, etc) and a printed note from my FH and me telling them how excited we are to have them share in our day.
So on to the Pre Wedding Party. We decided to have a party before the wedding because we are having it at my parents house and the weather will be iffy when we get back. My parents have what looks like an italian villa complete with Bocce Ball, small vineyard, etc. We are inviting all of our close family and friends. We did not invite anyone to the wedding except immediate family so everyone invited to the pre-wedding party will not be invited to the wedding. I understant that that is a no-no in terms of "Etiquette" but I feel that rules are meant as guielines and when those were written people didn't have DW's and 2nd marriages.
Our party will be a casual one with a pizza oven and someone hand throwing the pizzas, wine barrels tables to hold the food and drink, and some rousing games of Bocce! Here are my questions:
- We don't know wht to call the party on the printed invites?
- When do we send them and do we send a "Save-the-date"?
- Can we suggest No-Children?
- We really don't want or need gifts, do we state that? A friend is throwing me a shower and I don't know what to do with that one as well. Do I register for that? I feel awkward about the whole gift thing.
Anyway, I can't wait to get your advice and am looking forward to the answers!