So we decided last night we don't want this HUGE wedding this is all turning into. We made a small list (max 19 people), of our immediate family and closest friends. We only want them to come with us..... and we have agreed to do a big at home reception a few weeks later, since it matters so much to our parents that we celebrate with all of these people.
FI's parents are all in- sat down with us last night, and helped us come up with the best way to do it (most cost effective for our guests), cost effective for us... and allows us to have the small, intimate wedding we do desperately want. No fuss, no reception after- just a small dinner on the beach. No big welcome bonfire, no fire show after, no lounge chairs.... nothing. Just us, our guests, a videography and out photographer.
We will play the video of the ceremony at the reception, so everyone can see us say our vows to one another.... and then we will have a huge party with all of our families, friends, and parents friends.
My hardest part at the moment? Telling this to my parents..... they are going to FLIP OUT, say they don't care, they will pay for all of these people to come to Mexico, blah blah blah.
I just don't know how I am going to get it across to them, that they either accept this (as I was pretty close to not showing up at my own wedding because of the copious amount of stress and hatred I was feeling about this day).... or Amir and I go and do it, just the two of us, and we don't have any kind of celebration. My mom sells my dress, and that's it. They won't be invited (to our legal ceremony or Mexico), and we do it just the two of us. I am not impressed that our nice, simple, intimate DW turned into this elaborate, full-on huge wedding of 80 people (mostly our parents invites) coming to Mexico.
Please, someone tell me I'm not alone. This is absolutely normal, to turn into hating the wedding other people were forcing you in to.... and having to play hardball to get your way, even at the risk of not even having anyone there at all?
Why.... why is something so special, and supposed to be such a happy day, turning into a nightmare... and now me having to have an EXTREMELY difficult conversation with my parents (in which I will be told I am ruining all of their relationships with their siblings and friends).