My FI and I were introduced through a mutual friend. I don't know if it was Love at first sight but it definitely was lust! LOL. Etienne was 30 and has a daughter from his first marriage (4 at the time) and I was 27 and had a son from my first marriage (6 at the time). We moved in together after a short 6 months and two years later on Christmas morning, he proposed to me. We didn't pick a date as we thought it would be best to deal with our "step parenting " issues before the big day. Another two years passed and I really wanted baby...I wanted to experience parenting with a "great father" and I thought it would help us bring our family together. Shortly after our daughter was born, my sister was killed in a car accident and we adopted her 3 kids. We went from 2 kids to 6 kids really fast! We went to counselling to help us deal with all the different dynamics in our family. Needless to say that a 'wedding" was the furtherest thing from our mind while raising sooo many children. We also had to feed the buggers and man could they eat, lol. During our counselling, the counsellor told us to erase all the "grey" from our household and make things "black and white" this would help to avoid arguments with each other as well as with the children. IT WORKED LIKE A CHARM!!!! Definitely helped us create a well balanced life for our family.
Over the years, Etienne and I always shared a deep love for one another which was infectous to all our six kids. We often would wake up in the morning and while holding eachother, playfully I would say "one day, I'm going to marry you", to which he responded "whenever you are ready". Last year, 16 years later, and after four of our children where off in College and only 2 remaining at home, we were in the mall and went into the Jewellery store to see about getting a ring that would close off my set and perhaps start planning a wedding (this was still just brief discussions, never in depth). The sales lady said that my rings were beautiful but that "after 16 years and what you've been through, you deserved an upgrade, after all Windows upgrades yearly"...we laughed and he said, "lets do it". So we did...we bought a new engagement ring for me and our wedding bands! (I will have my diamonds from my first set of rings changed into a necklace that I will wear on our wedding day).
We came home and told the children and they were beyond excited! We had discussed several times that when we decided to get married, it would be a destination wedding. We knew that our children, now aged 11-25 (the 17 year old, my sisters youngest, is autistic so he was just crazy thrilled) would form our wedding party. We also decided that our colours would be BLACK and WHITE because of the advice we received from our counsellor, it is what saved our relationship and more importantly, our family!!!!
So almost 18 years to the date that we met, we will be getting married in Varadero, Cuba. I purchased Etienne a bracelet as a wedding gift...on the back i am having it engraved "Whenever Is Today"...he'll understand.