I've been really struggling with this issue lately, so I hope somebody can give me some advice. We are getting married in Cozumel on 11/6/13. After finding out about all the hoops you have to jump through to do the legal ceremony in Mexico, we decided to get married at home in the courthouse prior to our wedding in Mexico. Of course our friends and family will all be there in Mexico and we are really looking forward to celebrating with them.
The problem is that we kind of want our little courthouse ceremony to be a special moment for just the two of us, no family or friends. My parents and family members have all been under the assumption that we are getting legally married in Mexico, and I never told them that we were thinking of doing otherwise. I'm sure their feelings would be hurt if they knew that we got married without them being there, but I don't like the idea of lying to them either.
My mother just called me at work today to tell me that her hairdresser told her that he has been to many destination weddings where the couple got legally married before the actual wedding, to avoid all the hassle of paperwork and blood tests, etc. She said she wanted to give me the info in case we hadn't considered that yet, it was something we should think about. I wasn't really sure what to say so I just told her that it was something that we had already considered. And I left it at that. But then my Dad was in the background saying that if we got married before the wedding in Mexico that they would want to be there.
Shouldn't I be able to get married the way that I want though? I'm feeling very torn now between what we want and what everybody else wants. I feel like no matter what somebody isn't going to be happy and unfortunately I feel like that's probably going to end up being me.