RSVP Timeframe????

[Lene1112]

We sent out invitations beginning of April for a RSVP of May 18. All Deposits are due by June 8th. RSVPs are coming in now, so wish me luck :-)

[gresley]

I've heard that sometimes travel agents can get courtesy extensions -- did any of you guys have that experience?

[Backy]

I am surprised you ladies have the rsvp date so close to the wedding. Mine is next year April, and i am trying to get my guests to rsvp by next months, 9 months before wedding. first, i want to know how many people for reception/ catamarian cruise purposes ( i need to choose either depend on how many guests), then, I am scared if they don't reserve now, the price will go up especially for both flights and hotel, I don't want my guests to pay more than they have to. Third, after the guests reserves, I can finally get ready and prepare the DIY boarding pass mail invitation. But, true, I know some guests can't make the decision until a lot closer to the wedding date, i understand that. But i wish the majority of people would respond.

[MsFaszion]

Originally Posted by Lene1112 

 

We sent out invitations beginning of April for a RSVP of May 18. All Deposits are due by June 8th. RSVPs are coming in now, so wish me luck :-)

Good luck, and congrats.

[MsFaszion]

Originally Posted by Backy 

 

I am surprised you ladies have the rsvp date so close to the wedding. Mine is next year April, and i am trying to get my guests to rsvp by next months, 9 months before wedding. first, i want to know how many people for reception/ catamarian cruise purposes ( i need to choose either depend on how many guests), then, I am scared if they don't reserve now, the price will go up especially for both flights and hotel, I don't want my guests to pay more than they have to. Third, after the guests reserves, I can finally get ready and prepare the DIY boarding pass mail invitation. But, true, I know some guests can't make the decision until a lot closer to the wedding date, i understand that. But i wish the majority of people would respond.

I agree, but people tend to be slow.  I know the venue I selected if pricier than some so I'm hoping to get 30 people or less.

[Lene1112]

I am surprised you ladies have the rsvp date so close to the wedding. Mine is next year April, and i am trying to get my guests to rsvp by next months, 9 months before wedding. first, i want to know how many people for reception/ catamarian cruise purposes ( i need to choose either depend on how many guests), then, I am scared if they don't reserve now, the price will go up especially for both flights and hotel, I don't want my guests to pay more than they have to. Third, after the guests reserves, I can finally get ready and prepare the DIY boarding pass mail invitation. But, true, I know some guests can't make the decision until a lot closer to the wedding date, i understand that. But i wish the majority of people would respond.

Hi Backy, Being less than 2 months away now and all our RSVPs are in, I can say I never want to go through that experience again. Good luck in trying to get people to give you a solid answer that far in advance. We tried that and it didn't work. We also thought we were having a very small intimate wedding around 20-25 people since no one was contacting us. Two days before the RSVPs were due, we received 20 more confirmations. We are now 40 strong staying at the resort and 10 staying outside the resort. Have fun!!!!

[Backy]

oh my goodness! 20 more confirmation!!?? that's crazy, but i am sure you will have a lot of fun.

 

I make them do a deposit when they book now, so i know they are serious in coming.

[KK2013]

Originally Posted by Backy 

 

oh my goodness! 20 more confirmation!!?? that's crazy, but i am sure you will have a lot of fun.

 

I make them do a deposit when they book now, so i know they are serious in coming.

 

I hope yours come/came in!  I am 2 days before my due date, and there are still 76 RSVPs to come in!  I can't believe it!

[zeman321]

Question for all of you....how far in advance did you send your save the dates? Our wedding is Oct. 25, 2014 and I just ordered save the dates. I will be moving to another state in Aug. or Sept. and really kinda wanted to grt these done before then, but my FH's sister is having a DW in Oct. of this year and I don't want to send them out before her wedding if it will make her uncomfortable. Should I just wait until we get back from her wedding? Would it bother you if you were her? Any advice would be appreciated.

[MrsTobeD]

I really thought about having the RSVP by March, I am an August 2014 bride, and I really want to know how many OOT bags I need to make, I am not in a situation to be making more just in case, I figure if people are going to go, they will know when they receive their STD's, is not like they will sit and think, oh, can I go? do I have something else so do in a year? My STD are going out this weekend. 

 

I send RSVP's back the minute they come in my mailbox, so I don't know why people wouldn't do the same, come on, you know if you are going to attend or not, being lazy/rude and postponing a reply "just because" is something else. 

 

I do foresee that inconveniences happen and I could get a couple of cancellations but I really need to know how many people are coming before I start making myself crazy with tons of DIY that I will never use. Lets say, booking a DJ, is something I will only do if I have enough people so just and ipod will not suffice, so yes, I need to book the DJ at least 6 months in advance, how do I do this if I don't know how many people are coming? 

 

The reason STD's for a wedding go out at least a year in advance is so people can plan accordingly and decide if they are going to be able to afford it and/or want to attend. So if I go through all the work of being ready, sending things ahead of time, holding rooms down with my own money, why can they reply 5/6 months in advance? A vacation is not something that you decide the day before you go.

 

If people are going to wait 2 days before the RSVP date to do it, then let that be 5 months in advance so I can plan. 

Originally Posted by Krystal084 

Jessica, I think 5 months may be a little too early to have them RSVP by, because you will probably get a LOT of people who will say they can go, but then alot can change in 5 months and you may end up having a lot of last minute drop outs..  I am doing my RSVP deadline 15 days after the entire balance is due to the travel agent (1.5 months before the wedding)- that way everyone will have a pretty good idea that either they ARE or aren't going to be attending.