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Hey I was just curious what to tip the WC,  the staff setting up the wedding along with the bartender, and photographers. Did everyone do 10% of the cost of the services I am not sure what to do??!!!

 

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Darcy

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Hi Darcy - there are lots of brides asking the exact same question, and here's  a post from Sllafebvr dated 10/4/11 about tipping for her Jamaican wedding ..... it's good to remember it's only a guideline, and to use your own personal judgement.........for example, our MTM team often receives tips from their wedding couples :)

 

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Here girls I did some research on destination weddings and here was the best result

 

  • You do not need to tip your florist unless he/she does something spectacular or really out-of-the-floral-realm for you. If he tracks down the filling for your goody bags, or she blows your mind with something you werenâ€t expecting, by all means, feel free to tip the florist. But it isnâ€t something you need to build into your budget.
  • You donâ€t need to tip your caterer, but you will need to tip the servers and bartenders. If you donâ€t have a wedding planner to guide you, ask the caterer whatâ€s appropriate per person.
  • Donâ€t tip the photographer. If you adored her, order more prints!
  • Donâ€t tip the wedding cake baker.
  • Donâ€t tip a band, unless they stay extra time and donâ€t bill you for it.
  • Tip a DJ if heâ€s really, really good. $50 is more than enough.
  • If youâ€re staying in a small hotel and youâ€ve taken over the whole place for your wedding, be sure to tip the hotel manager/concierge who has helped you with everything. You should also tip the breakfast or housekeeping staff, but you donâ€t need to do it individually. Give a tip to the person in charge of that staff and ask them to split it with the people who worked during your wedding.
  • If youâ€re staying at a villa or private property with a house manager or caretaker, tip if youâ€re having the reception on the property and the person is being very helpful. Remember, the property owners made money on you. The caretaker or property manager is on salary and had to put up with you because itâ€s part of his job. If they do a great job, acknowledge it. If you have daily maid service, itâ€s appropriate to leave a tip of $2-$5 per day in your room. If you have a 5-bedroom house, you should tip $10 per day at the end of your stay if they did a good job.
  • Do not tip your wedding officiant.
  • Do not tip your rental equipment delivery guys — you paid a delivery fee already.
  • Finally, do tip your wedding planner. As self-serving as this may sound, I get asked this question a lot so Iâ€m going to tackle it openly and honestly.

If you have a good wedding planner who is charging you a reasonable fee and isnâ€t marking up your services, you should tip her at the end of your wedding if you are happy with her services. When deciding how much to tip, think about how much her total fee was, and think about how much money she saved you (there will be items that stick out when you think about it), and how challenging you may have been as a client. If you know you drove her nuts or were very demanding (and she was nice about it), compensate her for the extra time and effort she had to put in to your big day. Tip between 15 and 20 percent of her wedding fee. To some extend itâ€s like a restaurant, if you were satisfied, go 15 percent. If you were thrilled and she did a great job for you, go 20 percent or more. If you felt like she dropped the ball, give her 10 percent, or donâ€t tip her at all. A tip is supposed to be a gratuity for a job well done, whether itâ€s a waitress, a hairdresser or a wedding planner.

The exception to the rule is the wedding planner who asks for a tip. That is just so gauche. Sometimes Iâ€ll make a joke about it to my clients when theyâ€re really super impressed with something Iâ€ve done. When theyâ€re telling me how great I am or how much money Iâ€ve saved them, Iâ€ll make some joke like “remember that when itâ€s time to tip me,†or something like that. But Iâ€ve never ever told a bride up front that a tip was required, or asked a bride for a gratuity after the wedding. Some brides are just thoughtful. Iâ€ve received lovely thank-you gifts and even sweeter notes — and those can be very rewarding as well.

If you donâ€t use a wedding planner and a banquet manager or someone else from the hotel steps into that role for your wedding, be prepared to tip her at the end of the event as long as everything has gone smoothly. She is your de facto wedding planner and you should thank her for executing that role well. It doesnâ€t need to be as much as you would tip a wedding planner, but a token to let her know her work was appreciated is more than appropriate.

So when your wedding planner gives you the list of tips youâ€ll need for your wedding a few weeks before the big day, take a moment to think about whether youâ€ll want to have some extra on hand to tip your planner too, assuming she delivers all that she promised on your wedding day. If in the end she doesnâ€t deserve it, spend it on a spa day on your honeymoon.

 

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My mom said I totally need to tip the wedding officiant.....................

 

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Originally Posted by Moments That Matter View Post

Hi Darcy - there are lots of brides asking the exact same question, and here's  a post from Sllafebvr dated 10/4/11 about tipping for her Jamaican wedding ..... it's good to remember it's only a guideline, and to use your own personal judgement.........for example, our MTM team often receives tips from their wedding couples :)

 

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