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#11 cocoluv

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    Posted 11 August 2013 - 05:03 AM

    First off let me say that I DID NOT write this! I read it on Facebook after *Beautiful Me* posted it It is very deep and truthful, worth reading to the end. Enjoy! I absolutely love this... Thanks for posting!! AM I WITH THE RIGHT PARTNER? During a seminar, a woman asked," How do I know if I am with the right person?" The author then noticed that there was a large man sitting next to her so he said, "It depends. Is that your partner?" In all seriousness, she answered "How do you know?" Let me answer this question because the chances are good that it's weighing on your mind replied the author. Here's the answer. Every relationship has a cycle… In the beginning; you fall in love with your partner. You anticipate their calls, want their touch, and like their idiosyncrasies. Falling in love wasn't hard. In fact, it was a completely natural and spontaneous experience. You didn't have to DO anything. That's why it's called "falling" in love. People in love sometimes say, "I was swept of my feet."Picture the expression. It implies that you were just standing there; doing nothing, and then something happened TO YOU. Falling in love is a passive and spontaneous experience. But after a few months or years of being together, the euphoria of love fades. It's a natural cycle of EVERY relationship. Slowly but surely, phone calls become a bother (if they come at all), touch is not always welcome (when it happens), and your spouse's idiosyncrasies, instead of being cute, drive you nuts. The symptoms of this stage vary with every relationship; you will notice a dramatic difference between the initial stage when you were in love and a much duller or even angry subsequent stage. At this point, you and/or your partner might start asking, "Am I with the right person?" And as you reflect on the euphoria of the love you once had, you may begin to desire that experience with someone else. This is when relationships breakdown. The key to succeeding in a relationship is not finding the right person; it's learning to love the person you found. People blame their partners for their unhappiness and look outside for fulfillment. Extramarital fulfillment comes in all shapes and sizes. Infidelity is the most common. But sometimes people turn to work, a hobby, friendship, excessive TV, or abusive substances. But the answer to this dilemma does NOT lie outside your relationship. It lies within it.     I'm not saying that you couldn't fall in love with someone else. You could. And TEMPORARILY you'd feel better. But you'd be in the same situation a few years later. Because (listen carefully to this): The key to succeeding in a Relationship is not finding the right person; it's learning to love the Person you found. SUSTAINING love is not a passive or spontaneous experience. You have to work on it day in and day out. It takes time, effort, and energy. And most importantly, it demands WISDOM. You have to know WHAT TO DO to make it work. Make no mistake about it. Love is NOT a mystery. There are specific things you can do (with or without your partner), Just as there are physical laws Of the universe (such as gravity), there are also laws for relationships. If you know how to apply these laws, the results are predictable. Love is therefore a "decision". Not just a feeling. Remember this always: God determines who walks into your life. It is up to you to decide who you let walk away, who you let stay, and who you refuse to let GO

    #12 STemple

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      Posted 11 August 2013 - 10:01 AM

      Thanks for sharing :)

      #13 cocoluv

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        Posted 11 August 2013 - 12:35 PM

        Not sure what happened on my last post, but I wanted to say that I absolutely love this post....

        #14 Kasey04

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          Posted 16 August 2013 - 07:41 AM

          Thank you for sharing this. I think it's something all bride and grooms should read and remember throughout their marriage! 

          #15 Xarocas

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            Posted 21 August 2013 - 04:56 AM

            Very true words. To me love is hard work and that's the key to success. My fiance and I have been together for almost 9 years and every day we remind ourselves to be kind and loving and to make an effort to make the other special. I feel very luck to have found someone I know I want to spend the rest of my life with :)

            #16 traylynn

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            Posted 21 August 2013 - 06:38 PM

            Great post 

            #17 Tinkerbell82

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              Posted 21 August 2013 - 07:04 PM

              Really good- thanks for sharing!

              #18 bridemoonpalace

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                Posted 02 September 2013 - 03:46 PM

                Great read!

                #19 shopnboard

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                  Posted 01 October 2013 - 09:15 AM

                  Good read, thanks for sharing!

                  #20 babystace1985

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                    Posted 05 November 2013 - 11:05 PM

                    Well said!
                    Those who matter don't mind. Those who mind don't matter. -Dr. Seuss

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