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#1 avonladee

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    Posted 30 January 2013 - 01:58 PM

    First off let me say that I DID NOT write this!

     

    I read it on Facebook after *Beautiful Me* posted it

    It is very deep and truthful, worth reading to the end.

    Enjoy!

     

     

     

     

    AM I WITH THE RIGHT PARTNER?

    During a seminar, a woman asked," How do I know if I am with the right person?"

    The author then noticed that there was a large man sitting next to her so he said, "It depends. Is that your partner?" In all seriousness, she answered "How do you know?" Let me answer this question because the chances are good that it's weighing on your mind replied the author.

    Here's the answer.

    Every relationship has a cycle… In the beginning; you fall in love with your partner. You anticipate their calls, want their touch, and like their idiosyncrasies. Falling in love wasn't hard. In fact, it was a completely natural and spontaneous experience. You didn't have to DO anything. That's why it's called "falling" in love.

    People in love sometimes say, "I was swept of my feet."Picture the expression. It implies that you were just standing there; doing nothing, and then something happened TO YOU.

    Falling in love is a passive and spontaneous experience. But after a few months or years of being together, the euphoria of love fades. It's a natural cycle of EVERY relationship.

    Slowly but surely, phone calls become a bother (if they come at all), touch is not always welcome (when it happens), and your spouse's idiosyncrasies, instead of being cute, drive you nuts. The symptoms of this stage vary with every relationship; you will notice a dramatic difference between the initial stage when you were in love and a much duller or even angry subsequent stage.

    At this point, you and/or your partner might start asking, "Am I with the right person?" And as you reflect on the euphoria of the love you once had, you may begin to desire that experience with someone else. This is when relationships breakdown.

    The key to succeeding in a relationship is not finding the right person; it's learning to love the person you found.

    People blame their partners for their unhappiness and look outside for fulfillment. Extramarital fulfillment comes in all shapes and sizes.

    Infidelity is the most common. But sometimes people turn to work, a hobby, friendship, excessive TV, or abusive substances. But the answer to this dilemma does NOT lie outside your relationship. It lies within it.

     

     

    I'm not saying that you couldn't fall in love with someone else. You could. And TEMPORARILY you'd feel better. But you'd be in the same situation a few years later.

    Because (listen carefully to this):

    The key to succeeding in a Relationship is not finding the right person; it's learning to love the Person you found.

    SUSTAINING love is not a passive or spontaneous experience. You have to work on it day in and day out. It takes time, effort, and energy. And most importantly, it demands WISDOM. You have to know WHAT TO DO to make it work. Make no mistake about it.

    Love is NOT a mystery. There are specific things you can do (with or without your partner), Just as there are physical laws Of the universe (such as gravity), there are also laws for relationships. If you know how to apply these laws, the results are predictable.

    Love is therefore a "decision". Not just a feeling.

    Remember this always: God determines who walks into your life. It is up to you to decide who you let walk away, who you let stay, and who you refuse to let GO



    #2 JovienCO

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      Posted 30 January 2013 - 02:27 PM

      I like this...thanks for posting!



      #3 snorfle1

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      Posted 30 January 2013 - 05:15 PM

      I love this!!!



      #4 avonladee

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        Posted 30 January 2013 - 05:22 PM

        I'm thinking of printing it off and giving it to my fiance the day of the wedding with his gift..............

        What do you think????



        #5 MrsWWhite

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          Posted 06 April 2013 - 08:52 AM

          This is a really good post

          #6 avonladee

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            Posted 08 May 2013 - 08:24 AM

            Originally Posted by MrsWWhite 

            This is a really good post

            Thank You :)



            #7 Jenny2014

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              Posted 08 May 2013 - 10:46 AM

              Love this post. It is so true.

               

              Relationships don't end because of this or that. People make the decision to end them, by taking certain actions / or not doing them at all.

               

              A relationship is work and sometimes you have to fight real hard for it. And at the end of your life, you'll be glad you did.
               



              #8 MelB2012

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                Posted 08 May 2013 - 12:03 PM

                Originally Posted by avonladee 

                First off let me say that I DID NOT write this!

                 

                I read it on Facebook after *Beautiful Me* posted it

                It is very deep and truthful, worth reading to the end.

                Enjoy!

                 

                 

                 

                 

                AM I WITH THE RIGHT PARTNER?

                During a seminar, a woman asked," How do I know if I am with the right person?"

                The author then noticed that there was a large man sitting next to her so he said, "It depends. Is that your partner?" In all seriousness, she answered "How do you know?" Let me answer this question because the chances are good that it's weighing on your mind replied the author.

                Here's the answer.

                Every relationship has a cycle… In the beginning; you fall in love with your partner. You anticipate their calls, want their touch, and like their idiosyncrasies. Falling in love wasn't hard. In fact, it was a completely natural and spontaneous experience. You didn't have to DO anything. That's why it's called "falling" in love.

                People in love sometimes say, "I was swept of my feet."Picture the expression. It implies that you were just standing there; doing nothing, and then something happened TO YOU.

                Falling in love is a passive and spontaneous experience. But after a few months or years of being together, the euphoria of love fades. It's a natural cycle of EVERY relationship.

                Slowly but surely, phone calls become a bother (if they come at all), touch is not always welcome (when it happens), and your spouse's idiosyncrasies, instead of being cute, drive you nuts. The symptoms of this stage vary with every relationship; you will notice a dramatic difference between the initial stage when you were in love and a much duller or even angry subsequent stage.

                At this point, you and/or your partner might start asking, "Am I with the right person?" And as you reflect on the euphoria of the love you once had, you may begin to desire that experience with someone else. This is when relationships breakdown.

                The key to succeeding in a relationship is not finding the right person; it's learning to love the person you found.

                People blame their partners for their unhappiness and look outside for fulfillment. Extramarital fulfillment comes in all shapes and sizes.

                Infidelity is the most common. But sometimes people turn to work, a hobby, friendship, excessive TV, or abusive substances. But the answer to this dilemma does NOT lie outside your relationship. It lies within it.

                 

                 

                I'm not saying that you couldn't fall in love with someone else. You could. And TEMPORARILY you'd feel better. But you'd be in the same situation a few years later.

                Because (listen carefully to this):

                The key to succeeding in a Relationship is not finding the right person; it's learning to love the Person you found.

                SUSTAINING love is not a passive or spontaneous experience. You have to work on it day in and day out. It takes time, effort, and energy. And most importantly, it demands WISDOM. You have to know WHAT TO DO to make it work. Make no mistake about it.

                Love is NOT a mystery. There are specific things you can do (with or without your partner), Just as there are physical laws Of the universe (such as gravity), there are also laws for relationships. If you know how to apply these laws, the results are predictable.

                Love is therefore a "decision". Not just a feeling.

                Remember this always: God determines who walks into your life. It is up to you to decide who you let walk away, who you let stay, and who you refuse to let GO

                I saw this on FB too. I like it.



                #9 Recy

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                  Posted 25 July 2013 - 04:34 AM

                  I love it!!!


                  "Make or accept no excuses. You are where you are today (and will be tomorrow) as a result of what you did or did not do yesterday."


                  #10 megssweet1

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                    Posted 30 July 2013 - 12:27 PM

                    Really great! Thanks for sharing!




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