am I being a bitch? (really long sorry)
Posted 09 October 2007 - 04:59 PM
However she and the other guy keep seeing each other (and yes screwing when the opportunity presents itself which isn't often I guess but still) and she really wants to keep her "friendship" with him, though she admits they can't be just friends anymore. He has made it plain that he doesn't want to lose his wife and he's doing what he can (lying basically) to get back into the good graces of his wife.
I've been telling my BFF that she needs to walk away from him because he's using her, and that if he truly cared for her he would either make a commitment to be with her or he'd let her go because what they are doing is just prolonging the suffering for everyone involved. I also tell they can't go on sneaking around to spend time together forever, they'll get caught again and that isn't going to help change her hubby's mind about divorcing her. She agrees with me yet has failed to separate herself from the situation.
So he starts texting me today (got my # off her phone). I have no idea why because I basically let him have it. I told him he needs to either leave my BFF or his wife, and that he and my BF need start acting like adults. His come back is that it's so much more complicated than that and really marriage is evil. WTF? I totally unload on him and my BFF and tell them both they are just making excuses and they need to take responsibility for their actions. Am I being totally unreasonable?
Posted 09 October 2007 - 05:06 PM
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Posted 09 October 2007 - 05:06 PM
No I don't think you're being a bitch at all. I don't know what I'd do in your situation, sorry I'm not much help, but it's a complicated one.
I think you're handling it the right way by telling your BF that she needs to make a decision. They do need to start acting like adults. If they really feel like they don't love their spouses anymore, then they need to tell them. If they do love them then that's just wrong.
Keep us posted, I'd love to hear how this turns out.
Posted 09 October 2007 - 05:08 PM
Posted 09 October 2007 - 05:13 PM
| Originally Posted by brecluse |
She met him at work, she and her husband own a bar and he "owns" the pool league (I don't really understand this) so they met that and then they played in the league together as well.
So does her husband know this guy?
Posted 09 October 2007 - 05:25 PM
Posted 09 October 2007 - 05:30 PM
Posted 09 October 2007 - 05:34 PM
If he decided to bring you into his drama then you had ever right to tell him off.
Good luck with this...
Posted 09 October 2007 - 05:37 PM
Posted 09 October 2007 - 05:47 PM
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