How often do you and FI/DH ...

[gkashmira]

We vary but right now it's slow going because we're both sort of depressed... hopefully that changes quickly!!!

[Rachelle E.]

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Funny story: last night we got into bed around 11 and I announced that although we were both exhausted, we should do the dirty. FI said "sounds good" and then... nothing. Apparently we both assumed the other would be doing the work... after about 20 minutes of arguing we both decided that catching up on Survivor was a good compromise... sigh

LOL! Ahhhhh! I HATE when that happens!

usually if DH is being lazy like that...I'll kinda' "compromise". Like I'll get all close and start the kissing...and usually he'll get involved and take it from there. It's like he needs a little jumpstart or something! lol!

[A10CalGal]

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Originally Posted by Galit We usually manage to squeeze in 2-3 times a week, sometimes more if we are in Boston over the weekend (which is definitely a rare occurence). Funny story: last night we got into bed around 11 and I announced that although we were both exhausted, we should do the dirty. FI said "sounds good" and then... nothing. Apparently we both assumed the other would be doing the work... after about 20 minutes of arguing we both decided that catching up on Survivor was a good compromise... sigh

LOL!! Oh, been there girl. Well, you brought it up so....

[trisha0612]

OH geez..definate sore subject!! We used to ALL the time, then it stopped for a long time..I'm talking once a month..but we weren't even engaged at the time!!! Then it picked back up a bit..now...I don't know! I think I'm a little freak b/c I wouldn't mind it everyday! The thing that kills me is when I'm talking with my friends and all they say is..."I feel so bad for him, he always wants it..and I'm just not in the mood!". So I sit there and think..."WHAT IS WRONG WITH HIM??" Aren't guys SUPPOSED to want it more Why am I ALWAYS on the wrong side of this ordeal?? I know he loves me and it's not me, but sometimes it's really hard NOT to take it personally. I've initiated and been rejected..I've dressed up and he was too hungry..WTF?? I'm done initiating it, he should pursue me!

What kills me the most is when we haven't done the deed for quite some time, but I know he's "taking care of his own business"!!! WTF is that about It literally makes me want to slap him for slapping his....well I won't go there but you get the point!

[DreaW]

I want to say we do it once a week....but not always....but when we do...it is always sooooooo good

[Spazz]

Probably once a week, if that. It used to be that I always wanted to and he didn't, and I took that very personally and thought I was unattractive etc. (the problem really was how much stress he was under at work). Now, the situation is reversed and I know he's annoyed about it. The big problem is that my sister moved in with us, so that definitely limits the times we can do it. The other huge problem is our dog!!! He follows me around constantly and if I try to keep him out of bed with me, he barks and whines. So, to do the deed, we need to crate him (which makes me sad!). Hopefully, once we move, the sister and dog issues will be resolved and our sex life will be make to normal!

[*JillD*]

We used to do it a lot more. almost everyday, sometimes multiple times, I guess thats what happens when everythings new, LOL!

 

but we still have a pretty active sex life, I'd say 3-4 times per week, sometimes more sometimes less, but I think we're both pretty happy with that.

[Jessica]

once or twice a week is dh if lucky. he'd prefer we did it everyday, but honestly, between school, work and being pregnant, i'm waaay too exhausted.

 

vacations though are always a turn on so anytime we go away from home we're like rabbits.

 

when i'm not stressed and pregnant, it's about 3/4 times a week.

[TOESNTHESND]

Gosh, you girls get busy!! At first we did it all the time, but then he was all about showing me he loved me but to him that ='s less sex. Then I tried to explain to him that we dont have to cut back on sex. He got the point and then things dropped a little when he was working graves and I worked 7-7pm. Now with the wedding coming very soon we are back on track for a while now at least once a week. We are both too tired for more than that right now.

[BrittneyD]

Unfortunetly our sex life is not that great. We try to have sex, but most the time it hurts too much, and we have to stop. The doctors say there is nothing wrong with me, but my body is telling me something different. I try to tough it out for FI, but he can't bear to see me hurt that bad. Hopefully we'll figure out, so we can enjoy ourselves more often.