Wondering how many of your FI's are super involved in the planning? Mine is like non-existent. Lol! He asked me a few times while I was cutting programs, tags, etc if I needed help & I told him no, which I meant bc I don't trust his cutting (I just don't think he'd make the lines as straight as me and stuff! Lol). But now that we are like 50 days out I thought maybe he'd ask me a question or ask something about the wedding--but nothing! So we talked when I got home from work bc it's been bothering me all day. He just said that he knows that everything is gonna be taken care of bc he knows I'll handle it. He knows that our final planning form is due to our resort any day now, so just thought maybe he'd ask something about that since we are so close, idk! He said he's super excited & ready for our day though.... I tell myself that this is normal... I sure hope it is!
Yes very normal! I am a little different in personaility I guess because I ask his opinion on everything. So I mean i throw questions at him constantly "Do you like these shoes? "Do you like this bracelet?" "Should we even bother with a planned excursion?" He is involved because I sort of make him involved, but I know he doesnt mind. We just work together and talk a lot because his job has caused us to not live around any family for the last 9 years...so he knows I need his help hah. I basicaly find the choices, then have him pick. He even constructed my brooch bouquet base for me out in our garage hah. However when it came to getting our guests all set with travel and accomodations, planning my colors, picking out reception decor, he had nothing to do with that type of stuff. I joke when he shows up itll be like he is a guest too. But the only things he is REALLY involved in (meaning wants to be) is the food selection at the reception, the music, a few planned excursions for him to fish and drink with his buddies and what he and the groomsmen are wearing. Other than that I just get a lot of Yeps, Sounds good, Do it! And I am fine with that!
Been there! lol. We are conflicted souls, us women. I didn't want him to really assist with the DIY stuff, just b/c i thought I could do it better. But one Sunday, I was sitting on the floor cutting and tying over 100 ribbons and he came back from a 4 hour relaxing bike ride along the beach and bay...I flipped b/c while he enjoying the sun on his shoulders and the wind at his back, i was crouched over like the hunch-back of notre dame tying stupid ribbons to freaking fans and survival kits. All I wanted was for him to "ask". But he was like, "i thought you said you like this stuff and when i did ask, you didn't want help". Which he was oh so right. haha. They actually have a book about it, "Survival guide for Grooms". Hilarious and so true. http://www.ebay.com/...2882#vi-content He has been a gem though, anything I throw his way, he catches with enthusiasm. He just needs to be asked...it's a man thing
I think it's totally normal. My FI is very involved in the sense that I run everything by him but this is hit as much to involve him as it is to share with someone what I'm doing! I'm planning pretty much solo bc my mom and my girls don't live here. Once i started getting more and more things for the wedding I decided I didn't want my mom or my girls to see things bc I want it to be a surprise for them. This makes FI pretty much my only person to help. That's one reason I love sharing things with you girls. Anyway, I got a little off topic, but my FI is a lot like your girls' FI's and I think it's totally normal. Like you said- we don't trust them with DIY stuff lol! And like one of said, they trust us! Haha. I know every time I do share something with him he's like "I totally trust you" and "everything you do always turns out great! You're talented, etc" so I know he cares, he just isn't nearly as involved in the details as me, but that's fine. I am getting SUPER excited as well!!!! I can't believe I am only 2 months out! Eeek!!!!!!!