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Saddest bride ever ! Honoring my mom ??

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Oct 4 2012 my mom passed away suddenly.. Hardest 2 weeks of my life so far. Oct 4 2013 was our planned dw. Obviously now I am replanning. How do I honor my mom at my dw without making my other guests feel uncomfortable. If I had my way I wouLd bring her urn, photos, candles and probably be way over the top. Most of our guests are asking when are new tentative date is so they can start booking holidays at work. I have no idea what to do. Most my friends are so tired of hearing bout wedding planning, and I no they have no idea how I feel right now in regards to my mum. So I turn to u ladies for suggestions

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Honey, I'm so sorry about your situation. I know you must be going through such a tough time right now. I can only imagine your pain. You will honor your mother at your wedding. I know we are doing a moment of silence at my ceremony for my sister who passed,but your situation will need something with a bigger impact. I just wanted to offer my condolences. I'll let you know ifi think of anything. In the mean time, take some time off from planning to relax a bit, and figure out what your next move will be. Keep us posted! My heart goes out to you:(

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First im so sorry for your loss..but its your mom you should honor her every and any which way you choose! Ive seen in pinterest that people have put a picture on the seat to honor loved ones who have passed..maybe you could bring her urn and do that. Thrn maybe play a song at your reception that she loved. But dont rush the replanning process..dont let anyone pressure you! We're all here for you..let us know what we can do to help!!

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Oh I am so sorry.  My heart breaks for you - please let us know if there is anything we can do to help you get through this.  I agree with Speckles - whatever you want to do is appropriate.  Take care of yourself.

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I am so sorry for your loss. 

 

I like the photo of her on a chair, and perhaps a candle (LED or flame) at the reception in her honor. You can also do a photo charm of her on your bouquet. Do you have something of hers you can add to your dress (a heart cut out of the fabric of her favorite dress and sewn into yours, a bit of lace from her dress you could sew into the lining of yours, or something like that)? 

 

I agree with the others. Take time to mourn and heal before you dive back into planning. 

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I am so sorry to hear about your mom. xoxox  Don't let anyone pressure you into anything, take as much time as you need.  As for honoring your mom you could have a small table at the ceramony site with a framed picture of you and her.  After the ceramony have the table and picture moved inside and have a candle lit to represent your moms presence.  Because she WILL be there in spirit.  You could also incoorperate something of your mothers into your wedding attire.  If you need anything don't hesitate to contact me.  I would always be willing to listen or give advice.  xoxoxoxox and I'm sure alot of girls on this site would do the same

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I'm so sorry for your loss, it must be so tough to have such a happy event associated with such a tragic one. You have a few options depending on what you feel comfortable with. You could always do your memorial at sunrise/sunset and then choose however you preferred to honor your mom at the ceremony. I know a family member who lost their mother added a locket to her bouquet so that her mother would be with her on her wedding day. I've also heard of people dedicating part of a slideshow at the reception to those who couldn't be there. Ultimately its your day, so honour your mother however you want to, and don't worry too much about what others will think!

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I'm so very sorry for your loss, and sorry that your mom won't be there, in person, on your wedding day.  I cannot imagine how you dealt with this the day before your planned DW!  My heart goes out to you.  My husband and I (second marriage for both of us) were married 3 years ago.  His Mom had passed away a few years before.  We honored her by having the small posy on her chair and mention "in memory of" in our wedding program.  But the best thing we did was to remove a flower (each of us) from the flowers on the wedding/altar arch and walk to the water's edge, say a prayer for her, and threw the flower in the Bay.  It was meaningful to us and to our guests.  My niece sang "When You Say Nothing at All" by Alison Kraus as we did that.  It was beautiful. 

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Hey Girl,

 

I know how you feel!  I lost my mom 19 years ago and couldn't think about having a wedding day without her.  That's why I'm eloping in jan 2013.  In honor of my mother I am having her picture on her wedding day in a gold locket that she left me.  I am having it put on my bouquet stem and will have it open for the whole day.   Iam having a picture of my dad on his wedding day on the other side.  I hope my suggestion helps! 

 

Sending blessings your way! 

 

Lisa

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