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Neat idea: honoring the mothers

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#31 sweetluna

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    Posted 23 April 2010 - 10:07 AM

    it's a great idea. Too bad my mom can't make it to the wedding.
    I'd still like to do something special for my FMIL. Since moving so far away from my own mom, my FMIL has really stepped in. She came with me to find my wedding dress and we've become close so I'd like to do something to honor her. Do you think this would work with only one mom present? I love my own mom very much but she can't afford to go to the wedding but will be at the reception when we return. Maybe I can think of a different idea to honour my mom at the reception?? Gosh, I have so many things to consider.

    #32 hat0112

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      Posted 14 May 2010 - 09:56 AM

      OK! I FINALLY found some information on how to get this to work! I found that some couples present the mom’s with roses after they light the unity candle. So, since my FI and I are doing a sand ceremony, we are going to do it right after that. We are going to have the officant say something and hand my FI and I the roses and we are going to present them to our mom’s. The only thing I am debating is if each of us are going to present both mom’s with a rose (each mom would get 2 roses) or we just present a rose to our own mom. I have some sample wording below and I am going to get my officant’s opinion on the wording too. Hope this helps!

      Honoring the wonderful women in your lives with a rose presentation is simple and beautiful. Before the ceremony, select a long stemmed rose for each mother/grandmother/person to be honored and tie a ribbon on the stem. Place the roses on the alter near the unity candle. Usually during the lighting of the unity candle, a special song is played or sung by a soloist. After the bride and groom light the Unity candle together, they each pick up the roses and take them back to where their mothers are sitting. The Groom presents his rose to his mother while the Bride presents to her mother, along with a hug and a kiss. The bride and groom then meet in the center and walk back up to the alter together, where they hold hands facing each other while the song finishes.

      "We open this ceremony with a symbolic gift of beauty and gratitude to the women who gave the bride and groom life---their mothers."

      (I then give the roses to the bride and groom who then present them to their mothers with a hug and kiss. Sometimes, as they embrace I have heard a bride or groom whisper in their mother's ear , "I love you, Mom.")

      I give them that quiet moment and then say in my officiant's voice:

      "Mothers, it is in your honor that I offer this quote from Homer's Hymns:

      It is she who nourished you

      she, out of her treasures.

      Beautiful children

      beautiful harvests

      are achieved from you,

      the giving of life itself.

      Officiant: (names of the couple) will present roses to their mothers. The roses symbolize the love and respect they have for the women who raised them.
      Officiant: (names of the couple) wish now to honor their mothers through the presentation of roses.
      Officiant: By presenting their parents with roses, (names of the couple) wish to honor their heritage and thank their families for their love and support.
      Wedding 10/22/10 Westin Aruba

      I love being a Mrs.!

      #33 tsgnatko

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        Posted 14 May 2010 - 09:59 AM

        I am crying reading this

        #34 Bpink62581

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          Posted 14 May 2010 - 10:45 AM

          Oh my gosh this is such a wonderful idea! So touching!

          #35 AishaB

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            Posted 14 May 2010 - 10:50 AM

            Such a sweet idea. Thanks for sharing!
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            #36 natalie1987

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              Posted 07 June 2010 - 05:03 PM

              thats a nice idea

              #37 LowcountryGirl

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                Posted 08 June 2010 - 02:09 PM

                Originally Posted by carly
                Awwww, that's a cute idea!! My FMIL would love it, not sure my mom would care. She ain't the most sensitive woman around :-)
                Same goes here with my mom being not so sensitive.

                #38 kclyburn

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                  Posted 08 June 2010 - 04:16 PM

                  VERY SWEET! Thank you for sharing...I may look into doing that as well!

                  #39 *Linds*

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                    Posted 08 June 2010 - 04:28 PM

                    super cute idea! I wish I would have done this!
                    Loving married life! <3

                    #40 rach2011

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                      Posted 26 July 2010 - 05:39 PM

                      I don't know if I can do this....without crying at the ceremony. I had to start/stop and restart reading 4 times to get through it. What a wonderful thing to do for the moms.

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