Worst Morning So Far
Posted 02 October 2007 - 12:19 PM
I got into an argument with my mother this morning over wedding dresses and budget. At first she told me that my budget was $2k for a dress, shoes and veil...this morning she said it was $1k and told me she never stated $2k, which is so untrue. She said that I was acting like a bridezilla and just because my FI and I have money that I shouldn't expect her too pay outrageous prices for things. I told her if she didn't want to buy the dress then I would buy it, then I hung up.
This statement is so hurtful and untrue. It just pisses me off. She is the one that said I had a $2K, plus I don't even plan on spending that much.
Do I should like a spoiled brat or do you think she is right?
I can handle the truth.
Posted 02 October 2007 - 12:23 PM
Posted 02 October 2007 - 12:25 PM
You should thank her for the $1,000 and pay the difference if you spend more than that. It's nice that she wants to help.
Posted 02 October 2007 - 12:26 PM
Think about this situation if it occurred for any other event in your life. If your aunt said she was going to give you $200 for your birthday, and when you got the check it was only $100--- would you be upset that it wasn't as much, or would you call and thank her politely for her generosity?
Posted 02 October 2007 - 12:28 PM
Posted 02 October 2007 - 12:29 PM
I can understand your frustration though, if she told you different once before. Once told something, your mind starts to plan around that specific thing. Like I am sure that if she had originally told you $1k, you'd think that is awesome, but the fact that she said $2k and then went to $1k and acts like she never said the first amount is frustrating. But I agree with Julie, accept with grace any help offered.
Posted 02 October 2007 - 12:30 PM
Posted 02 October 2007 - 12:33 PM
Posted 02 October 2007 - 12:34 PM
You're lucky that she is giving you $1000 and I know you probably are grateful, just disappointed/confused. How about, if yu can afford it, pay the remainder if your total goes over your mom's budget. Just let her know you appreciate what she is giving you. I'm sure it'll blow over. No need to turn this into a bigger issue than it should be.
Posted 02 October 2007 - 12:50 PM
I don't expect my parents to pay for anything, so when my mom offered the $2K I was shocked, but grateful. My parents own a beauty salon and right now business is slow (but it always is end of September early October) and they get freaked out about money. I think since we are both Hispanic our tempers flare much quicker and we both get excited. This is our downfall. Thankfully I have a great relationship with my mom and I can talk to her about things after we get mad.
I called my mom just now and talked to her. She was very upset and crying and I told her that I was sorry I hung up on her. I expressed how I was shocked at how she changed her mind so quickly. She told me that she can not afford $2k right now and was stressed out about it. But she will help in any way possible. I told her I would definitely pay the difference if there is any. She feels bad cause she wants to pay for everything and at the moment is unable to. I told her not to worry about it and we will work it out. Plus, I am not going to start looking for dresses until January. I feel so bad right now, I didn't want to make my mom cry.
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