Wow so sorry, I am Dominican and my FH is from NY so to avoid this I choose Mexico, I know a lot of my family members will be so UPSET when they find out that I choose a destination other than my home country but when I started doing numbers, it was like 50 ppl from DR along.... Then I know I would have to pay for my grand parents, my aunts and uncles and families which can not afford, or at least pay a day pass for them, I saw numbers climbing and I rapidly backed out of the whole Punta Cana wedding concept.
I wish I had words of wisdom for you, but I know my Dominican people. You invite one person to your child birthday and they will come with the entire family + their political family plus a neighbor. Same applies to a wedding. To Domincans, celebrations are to share and to have fun, they do not think about the cost.
Originally Posted by vas2014
I need help!!!!
We wanted a small & intimate wedding so we tried and tried to keep it at 25 guests. So we look at Jamaica because my FI being from the Dominican Republic it would be hard to keep it to that #. Fast forward that after hours of conversation with his parents we settled with Punta Cana; with Two major rules. Rule1 is as we are paying for his parents travel they must fly into Punta Cana stay for wedding at resort before heading to their home towns. 2. Family member who cannot afford it cannot come. I think its fare. Well as soon as we decided Punta Cana our list went from 25-50 (20 of the guest are his sibling with spouse and kids all local to the island). It being my second wedding I was ok with leaving friends and family out.
Oh well I thought.
We launch our wedding website last week. ONLY to find that some family member forward it to others that were not invited. We clearly say it on the website in English and in Spanish only a selected amount of people were invited please donâ€™t forward information. I donâ€™t know what to do? We are not doing an after destination wedding reception.
Like most brides I said yes to the whole destination wedding to keep it simple, but to him itâ€™s a full out Wedding affair. His family has no concept on money, saving and planning ahead. Iâ€™m about to blow up. All 13 of my guest have put $ down and are ok. His family they think they have until April-May.
Sorry for venting on here but my BM are my 2 children 9 & 13 and well you know my friends don't understand.