Any other 2014 brides here getting an early start?

[DeeP10]

Hey ladies I'm here for some " don't give a shit what anyone thinks and says pep talk". Lol I'm really kinda down tonight. We just came back from my FI sisters house where some of his family were gathered . For shits and giggles I informally handed his sister and dad the STD I just got done. And so it begins...this is what I got Odd look from his sister and 17 yr old niece . " Halloween ? Your wedding is gonna be on Halloween ? Really? " arched eye brows! From niece " great guess I can't come ill just have started college" From sister and niece - it's a Friday? From his father- why can't you just do it in Miami ? If its the money ill give you money. Are you inviting so and so and so and so and sound so? " you know we are. Tight family why would you do it in YOUR country? From his father - well at least we can book your uncles time share and we can all stay there and just go to your wedding. I was getting so pissed and its only the first STD Ohhhh and I said to his sister. Please it's not like anyone actually considers Halloween a pagan holiday. To which she raised her hand as in to say " I do" Now add to that None of my so called best friends have even called me to ask about the wedding since I told them I was engaged over a month ago. My fathers " how much is this shindig gonna cost comment" My moms " your not wearing white re you?" Comment And the fact that I'd rather elope As it is , I feel totally deflated. This is supposed to be a happy time in my life and instead I just wanna cry. Mainly because I always see in the movies and on tv all these people with tons of support. Let me clarify that everyone Is happy for us and want us to get married. I just feel super lonely in the process.

[KeissyS]

Originally Posted by DeeP10 

 

Hey ladies

 

I'm here for some " don't give a shit what anyone thinks and says pep talk". Lol

 

I'm really kinda down tonight.

 

We just came back from my FI sisters house where some of his family were gathered . For shits and giggles I informally handed his sister and dad the STD I just got done.

 

And so it begins...this is what I got

 

Odd look from his sister and 17 yr old niece . " Halloween ? Your wedding is gonna be on Halloween ? Really? " arched eye brows!

 

From niece " great guess I can't come ill just have started college"

 

From sister and niece - it's a Friday?

 

From his father- why can't you just do it in Miami ? If its the money ill give you money.

 

Are you inviting so and so and so and so and sound so?

 

" you know we are. Tight family why would you do it in YOUR country?

 

From his father - well at least we can book your uncles time share and we can all stay there and just go to your wedding.

 

 

I was getting so pissed and its only the first STD

 

Ohhhh and I said to his sister. Please it's not like anyone actually considers Halloween a pagan holiday. To which she raised her hand as in to say " I do"

 

 

Now add to that

 

None of my so called best friends have even called me to ask about the wedding since I told them I was engaged over a month ago.

My fathers " how much is this shindig gonna cost comment"

My moms " your not wearing white re you?" Comment

 

And the fact that I'd rather elope As it is , I feel totally deflated.

 

This is supposed to be a happy time in my life and instead I just wanna cry. Mainly because I always see in the movies and on tv all these people with tons of support.

 

Let me clarify that everyone Is happy for us and want us to get married. I just feel super lonely in the process.

Dee, 

I totally understand how you are felling right now.  I get stuck in the same rut over and over again...it's as if you can't please anyone even your own family.  But just remember that this special day isn't about them.  It's all up to you and your hubby at the end of the day.  I am at the point where I have realized this and am willing to accept it.  My fiance and I are aware that half the family can't or chooses not to come... so be it. I am also from Dominican Republic so you know we have a big family.   I am sure I will have the same reactions once I send out the invitations lol 

[DeeP10]

haven't forgoten about my sisters up here on  bdw, i've not been here all day, i had a death in my family last night so just been tryna be respectful of that, but trust it's been hard to not be up here all day.

Sorry for your loss Hun

[tyrebride2b2013]

Originally Posted by DeeP10 

 

Hey ladies

 

I'm here for some " don't give a shit what anyone thinks and says pep talk". Lol

 

I'm really kinda down tonight.

 

We just came back from my FI sisters house where some of his family were gathered . For shits and giggles I informally handed his sister and dad the STD I just got done.

 

And so it begins...this is what I got

 

Odd look from his sister and 17 yr old niece . " Halloween ? Your wedding is gonna be on Halloween ? Really? " arched eye brows!

 

From niece " great guess I can't come ill just have started college"

 

From sister and niece - it's a Friday?

 

From his father- why can't you just do it in Miami ? If its the money ill give you money.

 

Are you inviting so and so and so and so and sound so?

 

" you know we are. Tight family why would you do it in YOUR country?

 

From his father - well at least we can book your uncles time share and we can all stay there and just go to your wedding.

 

 

I was getting so pissed and its only the first STD

 

Ohhhh and I said to his sister. Please it's not like anyone actually considers Halloween a pagan holiday. To which she raised her hand as in to say " I do"

 

 

Now add to that

 

None of my so called best friends have even called me to ask about the wedding since I told them I was engaged over a month ago.

My fathers " how much is this shindig gonna cost comment"

My moms " your not wearing white re you?" Comment

 

And the fact that I'd rather elope As it is , I feel totally deflated.

 

This is supposed to be a happy time in my life and instead I just wanna cry. Mainly because I always see in the movies and on tv all these people with tons of support.

 

Let me clarify that everyone Is happy for us and want us to get married. I just feel super lonely in the process.

aww  just *u*k them and their opinions. Sorry you are feeling deflated.  When are people going to realize that weddings are about the bride and groom and not them as guests.  yes it's nice to have them and of course we all want to celebrate with our friends and family but in the end it is about the couple taking vows.  It's hard I know and we get down sometimes I think all of us but hell WE HAVE EACH OTHER ON HERE!!! I have completley stopped talking to others about the wedding only on BDW just so I don't get deflated because it is an awful feeling at a time when we are supposed to be our happiest.   Don't let it get you down just keep concentrating on the big picture when this is all said in done you will be husband and wife and that is all that matters.  and in regards to it being halloween you now have a really awesome reason to celebrate halloween.

[SammyAnna]

DeeP10... don't feel bad. I think we all get those comments. I felt terrible at first when people found out we were doing a DW. The comments were outrageous and totally discouraging. Then a friend said I should always face the naysayers with a smile, but when I get alone rant & rave about the comment (to myself, of course lol) & remind myself that its our day & we will do whatever we darn well want to! Sort of a "Its my party & I'll cry if I want to" moment. Now I feel alot more free & loving every minute of it. The comments eventually dwindled to minimum & we still ended up with 51 guests booked, so it didn't bother many people after all! Try to ignore it & enjoy the ride... you deserve it! Cheers

[tyrebride2b2013]

Originally Posted by shugapop1 

 

 

haven't forgoten about my sisters up here on  bdw, i've not been here all day, i had a death in my family last night so just been tryna be respectful of that, but trust it's been hard to not be up here all day.

so sorry for your loss..deepest sympathy to you and your family.  

[tyrebride2b2013]

Originally Posted by RaynDrop 

 

Haha yeah - at first the only thing coming to mind was Men In Black -- once I was able to erase that I was like DUH! I get it!! hehehe

 

I think your invites/favors sound cute!

 

what exactly will the favors include?

hahahhaahahahahaha don't think Men In Black would go with the whole beach thing....

 

Was going to use the colored sand to go with my colors and a message from us thanking all for coming etc. as well as some shells(not sure what else would go).  use our monogram on the outside the cork tied with rafia and a little shell at the end and the pull me sign..Not sure if gonna add a little something else with them...

 

The boarding pass invites I want to also make a luggage tag rsvp card trying to figure all this out now.. of course again I am soooo not a DIy'er but wanna atleast try first before spending the money

[RaynDrop]

Ladies - Did someone say yes to wanting me to look for Tumblers for them?  I feel like someone did but I totally dropped the ball : ( SORRY - I can still look for you!!

[shugapop1]

Sorry for your loss Hun

Thanks hun. Now to give u ur pep talk. Dont be deflated. Stay elated. This is your day. Fuck em fuck em fuck. Lol. I have gone through same thing. My mom us like. Why can't u just do it here in Nc ( mind you u live in atlanta) my friends and some family want to know why I'm inconviencing them as if my weddi g has a freaking bearing on their happiness.. most are clueless that it us less expensive to get married destination than it is in "your country" haters will hate. Not all that smile are truly well wishers. Those that are gonna come to support will come if its across the damn stree or if its in bumbfuck Egypt. You have your day whenever it is you want. And if it'd Halloween and you wanna give out masks and trick or treat candy or if its 4th if july and you wanna givd firecrackers for them to shovd up tgeir asses. So be it. Enjoy YOUR DAY. WITH OR WITHOUT. LOL

[shugapop1]

so sorry for your loss..deepest sympathy to you and your family.  

Thank you so much