My FI was not all involved until this weekend when we finally sat down and compared resort packages and listed extra costs etc to see how much this weeding will cost and he is shocked! he had no clue and now we're not sure if we can even afford this! :(
We both want something small but we're disagreeing on certain splurges. My #1 thing is photography but he can't believe it will cost up to 5k for a good photography package. He doesn't care about flowers/chairs/chuppas/sashes etc. he just wants his parents and sister there on the beach
He keeps saying "we don't need that, we don't need that etc"
Originally Posted by DeeP10
He's actually waaaaaaay more involved than that. Remember he wants to have the wedding I want to elope. Hahaha. He's super picky on photography and is all like " I need to read and look up all the djs" . Blah blah. " I like those passport invites" . Probably wants to be more involved than I'd like... But, everything is for the future. I'm like.. hELLOOO. We need to give ppl the heads up. Especially with a 110 person invite list. :0(
Originally Posted by DeeP10
Is anyone else slightly frustrated with their FI lack of sense of urgency . Mine wants to be let in on everything but I feel like he's mentally Pinteresting everything. 1 yr and 3 monthsnisnan eternity away so he's like yeah yeah " save the dates " those are nice for when we are ready to send them . Aughhhhhh
Originally Posted by RaynDrop
I would like to say that mine has been like that ever since we started planning a wedding.... however, he is always like that HA!
I have to either wait til he is in the mood to talk or trick him into listen to me when I want to ask him something and he isn't in the mood. Pouting works - but can't do it all the time cause that just annoys him HAHA
One day when he was giving me the "yeah yeah yeah" I stopped talking - waiting a minute then said "do you want me to just plan everything by myself so I don't have to be bothered with trying to talk to you and get your opinion - cause that would be easier for me OR do you want to have a say in Your wedding - I just don't want to bother you if I don't have to" I was sure to say this with no attitude so he didn't get defensive. his reply "I want to be involved!" so I told him fine and that I will run things by him before I proceed but if he doesn't have time to listen I will just move on in whatever way I want...... he hasn't given me the "yeah yeah yeah" since.
They need to feel like it was their idea - so I know he thinks I ask him because he told me he wants to be involved.... I know he still isn't always listening.. so if I need to I'll pout
He did actually ask me one day "don't you have friends to talk to about this stuff" So if yours says that tell him YES - BDW so don't bother me while I'm on in.. even if it is "all the time" HAHAH