Hey RaynDrop - I'm having a small wedding but never really cared to have bridesmaids. We have just 22 on the guests including immediate family and 6 friends each) I didn't want to choose among my friends (because then that would be the whole guest list! lol) and when I mentioned to my sisters "if I did have bridesmaids, it would be you 2", they kind of made a face like "really?? why us?" We get along but aren't that close. I think they expected me to pick my friends over them.
It's weird because they are super excited about the wedding and will come with me to look at dresses and they've talked about organizing a bridal shower/bachelorette party so it's almost like they are unofficial bridesmaids ...
My FI thought it was weird I didn't want a bridal party bc he wants (or thinks he should have a best man) I told him I'm totally fine with him having groomsmen if he wants - we don't have to be even. My friend got married with 10 groomsmen and only 4 bridesmaids!
Originally Posted by RaynDrop
Umm I don't know if it is standard - but it seems to be a good and popular way to get all your guest together for some fun bonding. I guess this would depend on your guest list.
No wedding party.... are you doing something small or inviting a lot of people?
I'm still toying with planning something and paying for everyone or just telling them we are doing it .. join us if you can.... I think paying for all is really nice.. but I don't want anyone to feel forced to do something they would rather not.
Originally Posted by pzl101
no engagement party. and i'm pretty sure my sisters and friends will throw a bridal shower and bachelorette party. The bachelorette party will be more like a spa day or wine tasting at a vineyard as opposed to going out clubbing though ...
Wine Tasting! I vote YES - Last time I did this we ended up going to 8 Vineyards in one day - Soooo fun!