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#1 ChocoTaco7568

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    Posted 26 July 2012 - 08:31 AM

    So I love my dress. I found it online, printed it out, and hunted it down to try it on. I fell in love instantly; it’s me in every way.  The retail price of this dress was over my budget, but I scored and found a pristine sample that came in under budget.  The only potential set back is that the dress is very form fitting and I don’t anticipate being very comfortable in it. Now I knew this all along but was willing to sacrifice comfort for a few hours (yes I love the dress that much). Secondly, I’m 5’10” and this dress only permits me to wear shoe that don’t exceed 1”. I love heels and it’s been very difficult to find a shoe that I like adnwill work with this dress because of the heel restriction.

     

     

     

    In the interim, I have a friend who happened to buy one of my top 5 dresses. She ended up eloping in Vegas and no longer needs the dress.  My curiosity got the best of me and I tried it on again, big mistake because now I’m thinking about buying it off of her and I will have two dresses.  She got a killer deal on this dress as it was ordered by another bride who canceled her wedding and she only had to pay the 50% balance. And since we’re friends, she’ll give me a deal and reduce her asking price. Now if I switch dresses and sell my original (even if I lose a bit of $) I will still be well under my original budget. It’s actually possible that when it’s all said and done, I might only use a little over half of my original dress budget. And the comfort factor of this dress isn’t an issue. I don’t love this dress, but I really like it and I love that I will be saving a considerable amount of money. I will have to buy some sort of sash, and I can wear shoes up to 2-3/4”

     

    What to do???

     



    #2 AD2012

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      Posted 26 July 2012 - 09:11 AM

      Both dresses are gorgeous! Are you opposed to using both? One for the ceremony the other for the reception. Or even using one for a TTD or day after session?



      #3 ChocoTaco7568

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        Posted 26 July 2012 - 09:21 AM

        Originally Posted by AD2012 

        Both dresses are gorgeous! Are you opposed to using both? One for the ceremony the other for the reception. Or even using one for a TTD or day after session?

        Unfortunately, due to my budget I can't justify keeping both dresses



        #4 KristieT

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          Posted 26 July 2012 - 09:44 AM

          This is your one big day! Follow your gut! I think both dresses are beautiful! Which one can you picture your self getting married in. You dont want to have any regrets.. You said you didnt love the second one so i pick the first one! For shoes why dont you find a comfy low heel to wear and buy some sexy hot high heels to use just in pictures?

           

          Good Luck! Let us know what you decide!



          #5 JoieNJay0521

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            Posted 26 July 2012 - 09:48 AM

            I am marrying on the 21st of May 2013, 4 years from OUR first date!  Awesome!

             

            I say, though both dresses are beautiful, if you don't LOVE your wedding dress, you don't love it.  And I would be heartbroken to look at my pictures years after the fact, and think I should have worn something else.  I say you still have plenty of time to get a wedding gown.  Sell the one you bought that is shorter (and more uncomfortable than you wanted), and not buy your friend's.  Maybe try to find something similar to the gown you love, but longer so you can wear the shoes you want?  Just a thought.  Good Luck!!



            #6 Kassi22

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              Posted 26 July 2012 - 09:51 AM

              You keep saying how much you 'Love' the first dress, and the second dress you 'don't Love' ... Nuff said no? 

               

              Both are very pretty...but I would go with the dress that I 'Love'

               

              Also, as for the shoes... its a destination wedding!! Wear flats! (Heels..sand.. don't mix!)



              #7 ChocoTaco7568

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                Posted 26 July 2012 - 10:04 AM

                Quote:
                Originally Posted by KristieT 

                This is your one big day! Follow your gut! I think both dresses are beautiful! Which one can you picture your self getting married in. You dont want to have any regrets.. You said you didnt love the second one so i pick the first one! For shoes why dont you find a comfy low heel to wear and buy some sexy hot high heels to use just in pictures?

                 

                Good Luck! Let us know what you decide!

                 

                Thanks for your input. To justify switching dresses and in an attempt to save money, I keep trying to convince myself that you dont have to love your wedding. And shoes should be secondary. But maybe I will get a cute pair just for pics. Thanks, and I'll keep you posted with my final decision.

                #8 ChocoTaco7568

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                  Posted 26 July 2012 - 10:12 AM

                  Quote:
                  Originally Posted by JoieNJay0521 

                  I am marrying on the 21st of May 2013, 4 years from OUR first date!  Awesome!

                   

                  I say, though both dresses are beautiful, if you don't LOVE your wedding dress, you don't love it.  And I would be heartbroken to look at my pictures years after the fact, and think I should have worn something else.  I say you still have plenty of time to get a wedding gown.  Sell the one you bought that is shorter (and more uncomfortable than you wanted), and not buy your friend's.  Maybe try to find something similar to the gown you love, but longer so you can wear the shoes you want?  Just a thought.  Good Luck!!

                   

                  Hey there, when you get a moment you should join me and other May 2013 brides: http://www.bestdesti...may-2013-brides Thanks for you input. I do love the first one actually, but as the wedding progresses I just keep seeing $$$, so I saw a means to save and considered selling it for this reason. In my opinion there really isn't a dress like it, that's why I love it.

                  #9 ChocoTaco7568

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                    Posted 26 July 2012 - 10:14 AM

                    Quote:
                    Originally Posted by Kassi22 

                    You keep saying how much you 'Love' the first dress, and the second dress you 'don't Love' ... Nuff said no? 

                     

                    Both are very pretty...but I would go with the dress that I 'Love'

                     

                    Also, as for the shoes... its a destination wedding!! Wear flats! (Heels..sand.. don't mix!)

                     

                    True, but I'm not getting married in in the sand. But so far the consensus says that I should keep the one I love ad I think you ladies are right. Thanks.

                    #10 Adesir8

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                      Posted 26 July 2012 - 10:27 AM

                      i think you should keep the one you love! you keep saying that you don't love the 2nd one. don't settle. it's your big day!






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