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#1 BrittneyD

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    Posted 30 September 2007 - 09:20 AM

    I know that I have told you guys the situation with my dad. The thing that sucks is that my mom is pretty unreliable too. We get along so well when we are together, but I never know when she is going to come through. It seems like everytime we have plans, something comes up. We were supposed to spend today together. We had a ton of wedding stuff to get done today. Only, nobody had heard from her since Friday morning. I talked to her BF last night, he said he is getting pissed. She does this all time. She just disappears for days at a time. I asked him how he puts up with it, and he said because I love her. I'm really worried about her. I don't know what she is doing, or where she is. I'm angry too, because I tired of this always happening.
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    #2 Christine

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    Posted 30 September 2007 - 09:24 AM

    Brittney, that is terrible, I am so sorry. This is none of my business but does she have some sort of mental disease? The whole dissapearing thing is really odd.
    My fi's parents a really unreliable and he has said multiple times that he is really happy to be with me because I am his family now. So think about your FI as your family and know that he will not let you down.
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    #3 BrittneyD

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      Posted 30 September 2007 - 09:33 AM

      Quote:
      Originally Posted by Christine
      Brittney, that is terrible, I am so sorry. This is none of my business but does she have some sort of mental disease? The whole dissapearing thing is really odd.
      My fi's parents a really unreliable and he has said multiple times that he is really happy to be with me because I am his family now. So think about your FI as your family and know that he will not let you down.
      There are a couple red flags for me. When I was 5 years old, she tried to commit suicide. She is probably still depressed. Then about 5 years ago she was doing cocaine. We found it everywhere. Everytime she pulls a stunt like this, which is pretty frequently these days, it makes me think she is doing drugs again.
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      #4 SusanK

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        Posted 30 September 2007 - 10:15 AM

        Brittney-
        I'm so sorry to hear that you are going through this on top of everything else. When it rains, it pours. The disappearing act seems pretty suspicious to me. I really hope she can get her act together and be there for you!
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        #5 beachbride08

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          Posted 30 September 2007 - 11:38 AM

          Brittney, I'm so sorry to hear about your situation. Have you talked with your mom about this? If she is doing drugs again maybe you can convince her to get some help.
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          #6 BrittneyD

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            Posted 30 September 2007 - 11:48 AM

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            Brittney, I'm so sorry to hear about your situation. Have you talked with your mom about this? If she is doing drugs again maybe you can convince her to get some help.
            I have tried to talk to her, but she just pretends like nothing happened. Or she says there's some huge explanation that she can't get into. Somehow it's always somebody else's fault. If I bring up drugs, she gets so angry. I don't really know how to get through to her.
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            #7 Jessica

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              Posted 30 September 2007 - 12:19 PM

              Aww, I'm sorry.

              The behavior does sounds suspicious, and if she gets really defensive about any mention of drugs, that only increases it.

              I've only taken one course on Substance Abuse in my counseling program, but all the things I've read in your posts here fit the typical behavior.

              I don't know what to say though except I hope she's safe and you hear from her soon. It's always really hurtful when your parents let you down.

              #8 -Kate-

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                Posted 30 September 2007 - 01:37 PM

                I'm so sorry about this! I spend 2 of 5 work days dealing solely with addicts in treatment and your mom fits all the signs of a relapse. The best thing for her (and hardest for you) is to get her into a treatment program. Sounds like you won't be able to get her to do a voluntary inpatient program, but maybe she'll agree to outpatient? If not an intervention might be necessary.

                This is so hard. She has a disease and it needs to be treated. If you need any info on how the process works let me know and I'll try to find out.

                #9 Spazz

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                  Posted 30 September 2007 - 06:08 PM

                  Brittney, I'm so sorry to hear this. I hope she's ok, please let us know when you hear from her. Maybe an intervention with you and her boyfriend would be a good idea?

                  #10 BrittneyD

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                    Posted 30 September 2007 - 06:12 PM

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                    Brittney, I'm so sorry to hear this. I hope she's ok, please let us know when you hear from her. Maybe an intervention with you and her boyfriend would be a good idea?
                    She sent me a text about 20 minutes ago. She said that she wanted to replan our day, but she needed some time to put things in perspective. I am not sure where she is or when she is planning on coming home. I'm worried, but I am glad I heard from her.
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