I completely understand where all of you are coming from. We were bracing ourselves for this from the moment we decided to have a destination wedding. We are actually hiding this part of our wedding from our extended family (aunts/uncles/cousins, etc) because of everything you girls have mentioned. Only our parents and siblings as well as bridal party know and only they are invited to this part of our wedding. We will be having a at home reception and that is the only part that the extended family knows about, however at this reception we will tell everyone as a surprise that we got married 2 months ago. We will also have pictures from it running all night. I am bracing myself for pissed off family members, especially mine because they are EXTREMELY opinionated. But like so many people have said.....it's our wedding and we are going to do what makes us happy.
I/We don't tell other people what kind of wedding they should have so why are they telling us?