Originally Posted by nyweddingtocome
Hey. I have an interesting quesiton...
My brother is jewish is getting married to a Catholic girl. They decided that they are going to have a hoopa( jewish thing). She wants to make the hoopa out of her dead father's t-shirts rather than a white fabric.
What do you guys think of that idea? Please let me know. I don't know what to say to him about this.
I'm Jewish, too, but I don't really know what the rule is about this. I would ask the Rabbi if that's even permissible, to start. But, I think there might be better ways to incorporate her father into her wedding. I know one of the girls on the boards here sewed a blue heart into her wedding dress using fabric from her father's shirts or something along those lines. Perhaps that would be a better idea. I'm not even sure how it would look.
Bottom line, though - she is the bride and it is her and your brother's wedding, so I would probably not mention anything to them at all. Let them do what they want, as long as it is permissible within the guidelines, which the Rabbi would tell them whether it is or it isn't. Don't forget that not only is this her wedding, but the death of a parent and the lack of the parent at the wedding is a very sore subject, so tread carefully.
Just a quick clarification on what a Chuppah is from wiki:
A chuppah (Hebrew: ×—×•Ö¼×¤Ö¸Ö¼×”â€Ž, pl. ×—×•Ö¼×¤Ö¼×•Ö¹×ª, chuppot, literally, "canopy" or "covering"), also huppah, chupah, or chuppa, is a canopy under which a Jewish couple stand during their wedding ceremony. It consists of a cloth or sheet, sometimes a tallit, stretched or supported over four poles, or sometimes manually held up by attendants to the ceremony. A chuppah symbolizes the home that the couple will build together.