Hey DW Brides!!!
This is my plea for opinions on my issue that I'm having two days before we book our wedding to Punta Cana.
Here's the scoop!
For the past five years, I've been saying when we get married, we're having a DW so be prepared! It is no surprise that now that we're engaged we are planning our dream wedding in the DR. (I've already sent out our electronic save-the-dates!)
My Fiance's brother is his best friend, and his best man. They are the closest brothers I've ever come across. We were engaged on Dec. 25th 2011, and that day we told them we're doing a DW! Once I started looking at destinations and resorts, I figured our trip would cost guests $1,300 each. Well, I told the best man's wife (my soon-to-be sister-in-law) the price and she said OHHH that's expensive. She questioned me about when, and I told her April 2013...so more than a year away..and her response, oh, well I just don't know if we'll be pregnant then or not!
GUESS WHAT! They're pregnant...due in December! So, they'll have a 4 month old at the time of our wedding.
Now that its time to book, we called a family meeting with my fiance's parents, to get their decision...and they've said NO. They will not take the baby to Punta Cana. My fiance can't get married without his best friend and brother there beside him...and we told them that we would have to cancel our dream wedding and do something at home if it meant my fiance having his brother present. All of our other important family members have said they will be there (parents, grandparents, and other siblings) and are so excited to experience our wedding the DR with us!
Anyways, long story made a little shorter...I pulled the brother aside and talked to him on my own last night. I offered to pay for him to come down alone, and to fly him in for only 3 or 4 days just so he would be there for the wedding. It just so happens it would be over a weekend, so he wouldn't have to take that much time off work, and her parents could help her with the baby while they are off work. His response: don't get your hopes up, but you are making it a lot easier for me to come. (He wants to come, but it will be up to her if he can go or not)....AND, even her parents have said that he has to go because its his brother thats getting married!
Well, we still don't have a response, our deposit was supposed to go in today. AND, I got a nasty message saying that she should have been included in the chat I had with my future brother-in-law. (My fiance wasn't present either)
(Also, pertinent info to have...we're both in the same profession, where its really hard to get work...and I've managed to get work and she hasn't, and ever since she's hated me for it, ignores me and treats me like dirt).
SOoooooooo, my question for you all...because I don't have children and know nothing about traveling with babies...are there health risks to a baby going to the DR? We've chosen the Melia Caribe Tropical, which is supposed to be five star, with very good food and a good reputation. Can nursing mothers get twinrex to protect them and the baby? Or is there any other health risks for a 4-month old to go to the island, apart from a sunburn?????? Obviously the baby won't be injesting anything off the island, it would just be her...so is there something that the baby could get through her, that can't be vaccinated against? Is she being ridiculous by not going with the baby, or are there justified concerns?
Thanks for your help and opinions!
I have thought of every angle of this...and I am at a loss about what to do now... my FI and I are so upset, we haven't been able to eat, and we constantly feel sick to our stomachs. Weddings are supposed to be fun experiences, and so far its torture!!!
P.S...Feel free to post your own issues....as I'm sure you know, every family has at least one of those people...