As we are all busy with our planning, it is very easy to get caught up in OOT bags, photography choices and music selections. It is very easy to lose sight of the special person that has given you a reason to plan.
My neighbor lost her husband last night â€“ He was 36 years old. The same age as my husband. They have 3 children under the age of 9. I had to drive her to the emergency room once the paramedics put him in the ambulance (not sure if they were able to revive him before we left). She kept saying â€œGod, please donâ€™t take him away from meâ€¦..I cannot do this on my ownâ€.
In felt so bad for herâ€¦..and in my heart I knew there was probably words left unsaid and perhaps maybe even regret. Sadly, the couple has always argued intensely (so intense that we can hear)â€¦.This past Wednesday morning around 3:00 a.m., I was awaken to screaming and yellingâ€¦.their dog was barking and the kids were cryingâ€¦(I am a very light sleeperâ€¦..my honey slept though most of it)â€¦.Then I heard the sound of glass breakingâ€¦The next day, my fianc© said he saw her and she said her husband was upset because his Mom had passed (not sure how recently) and he was drinking. My fianc© said he later saw the husband cleaning the broken glassâ€¦..
Yesterday evening, I was on my computer (wedding planning of courseâ€¦) and I saw the lights of the ambulance outside. I looked out and saw my neighbor crying (I thought the worstâ€¦) I grabbed a jacket and wet outside. She was crying saying they were taking and he seized then slumped over her youngest child. By the time I got outside the paramedics were inside trying to revive him. I was able to see him on the floor as they worked on him. She kept saying â€œwe had such a good day todayâ€¦.: and â€œPlease Godâ€¦.â€
I took her to the emergency room where her brother â€“in-law met her. I went back home and went next door where other neighbors were there with her children who had been upstairs while the paramedics where there. I gave my number to her Aunt and told her to keep me posted. I went back into my home and called my fianc©..as I told him what happened and we both said we would pray that he would be okâ€¦her aunt called to say he had passed.
My heart is extremely heavy this morningâ€¦.although I was not what you would consider â€œcloseâ€ to my neighborsâ€¦.I am hurting for this woman that has lost her husband. It is very easy to take our loved ones for granted. Here on BDW, we are happy as we plan our beautiful weddingsâ€¦.(howeverâ€¦there is another siteâ€¦.that shall remain nameless that I cringe at the frivolous threads like â€œShould I ask my FI to change my ring because I do not like itâ€¦.â€etc....).
I just wanted to remind everyone to take a moment to pause and remember whyâ€¦.tell your significant other that you love themâ€¦..My FI since we have known each other has always kissed me when he leaves the houseâ€¦.even if only to go for gas or the Sunday paperâ€¦.the simple gestureâ€¦.now means so much to meâ€¦..