My fiance and I met my first year of law school at SMU Dedman School of Law. We were both members of the Black Law Students Association (BLSA) on campus. Ahman was an evening student so we only saw each other at the social events, first at a game night and second at Main Event. Every time we hung out, we had a blast! It still never went further than that though of course, cause I was still in a relationship.
Kneeling: In the middle (Ahman), to the right of him (leaning on the left should (me). At Main Event.
Fast forward into my second year of law school, my other relationship had ended (and for the best). I started spending more time with friends, which included Ahman. Somewhere along this year, we got to the point where if you saw one of us, you saw the other. If we were hanging out with our friends, we rode together (since we lived about 5 minutes apart). Of course, we both denied either of us having any feelings for each other when our friends asked, but they knew better. Ahman and I both love Mexican food, so he would find different street taco places, pick me up and we would go try them. I remember telling one of my guy friends about Ahman and I having dinner before I came out with him for drinks, and he said we were dating. Of course, I denied it explaining we were just friends. With his guy knowledge, he said, he picks you up, he never lets you pay, etc...ya'll are dating! This is right around the time I start admitting I have feelings for him, and so I began to notice he did as well.
By my third year of law school, we were spending a couple of days per week together. Our new hobbies, bowling and pool! We would invite others to join, but even if they couldn't make it, we never noticed! Ahman and I had become unspoken best friends. Christmas 2010 I was at my best friends house for a week, about 30 minutes away from Ahman. We planned a bowling night, which was really a date night. Met for dinner and drinks, and then rode together to the bowling alley. BUT before we get to the car, he says I have something for you. I'm shocked, and he has a pair of bowling shoes, exactly how I mentioned, only once, to him when we were bowling early in the year. It was so sweet, it showed just how much he listened to the little things I said. Now we both had a pair of our own bowling shoes (even though we're not really that good!) At this point, there's no denying our feelings, yet neither of us has come out and expressed them.
January 2011, a month I'll never forget. Ahman invited me to go watch his nephews basketball game and then hang out with his family afterwards. Now, this was by no means the first time I had been invited. Nor was it the most important event he had invited me to. But it was, the first time I said yes. We were both taken by surprise. Little did we know at the time, we were both using the family bonding time as a way to determine whether we would begin a relationship (we admitted this later). I had more fun that I could have imagined. By the end of it, his mom had a recording of me playing Dance Central on the xbox! Craziness! But I loved it.
Two weeks later, we went on a trip together to Washington D.C. Still, not "dating". Ahman had been working full time for an airline and was going on education leave so he could finish law school earlier, since he was in the evening program and decided to get his MBA while he was there. He's not an overachiever at all The trip was originally meant as my going to locate a nursing center for my grandmother, alone. Ahman called one day and said, he might as well go on a trip before he went on education leave and wondered if I would mind if he came along and we could make a weekend of it. We had been having so much fun up to then, of course I said yes. After walking around the city and exploring all the historical features, Ahman formally asked if I would be his girlfriend and told me he loved me! CRAZY right?! I loved him too! We were both so stubborn and had not expressed our feelings, but we both fell in love with each other over the years. This was one of the best weekends of my life.
Our D.C. Trip!
We flew back to Dallas and were welcomed by an ice storm, so I was stuck at his apartment for a couple of days. Since that weekend, we have essentially never left one another's side. We moved in together. When we told our friends one night that we were dating, several of the responses were "wait, weren't ya'll already dating?" I guess you can see why.
Fast forward a year. We have both graduated from law school, Ahman one semester after me. While I studied for the bar he was my rock. And, if you have been around a loved one while they are preparing for the bar exam, you know how much of a trying time that can be. Few months later, results are out, and I passed! We are both interviewing for jobs, and we both get an offer. My job offer, in Dallas. My fiance's offer...Minneapolis, MN. After talking to me about moving with him over that month, we decided to accept his offer and move to MN. One weekend at the Belmolnt Hotel, over looking the Dallas skyline, Ahman was telling me how much he would miss Dallas and his family, while I was getting dressed for dinner. In the background Eric Benet's "Spend my life with you" song was playing. Hearing him say that, I walked out to the balcony, looked into his eyes and told him, I understand and I will miss everyone too, but as long as I'm with you I'll be fine and I'll have everything I need. Ahman bends down on one knee, and asks me to spend the rest of my life with him. And, well. Based on this story, I'm sure you know the response, right? Just in case, I said YES! Now we are getting married January 19, 2013 in Manuel Antonio, Costa Rica!!!!
Other pics of me and my better half:
Out with friends in Dallas.
In San Antonio for his best friend Scott's wedding!
In Vegas after a wonderful buffet at The Wynn Hotel
And, we're off to Minneapolis!