Thank you everyone for your responses! The # of 109 was before my fiance cut some not necessary ppl off his list, we are now at 79 people AND I've still got 7 as maybes. I think I'll be removing 6 of those though. So we'll be close to the 70 range you guys all seemed to be at. I already know for sure both my grandmothers can't make it and my aunt and cousin. They can't afford it unfortunately but we are planning to marry prior to our destination wedding at city hall and doing a nice dinner or lunch with them. So I feel much better now that we are under 100 people! That's what I wanted.
Now the planning process begins! haha.