OK, I'm not sure where I'm supposed to post this but I'm wondering if married life is really very different from unmarried life.
Here's the back story:
- I'm 22 and not engaged, I'm also not really planning on it any time very soon, my boyfriend and I just aren't very interested
- The boyfriend and I live together, we just moved to a new city together (we did not live together in the city where we met)
- Of course our parents want us to get married, pretty much ASAP, but we aren't really interested
It's not that I hate marriage or anything, we just don't see the benefit. We make future plans together, are planning on (probably) spending the rest of our lives together, and are very much in love. We are also very much 22 and 23 though, and we know that a lot can change and there's really no rush.
The thing is, the friends of our who have gotten married or are engaged fall into one of two categories. Either they are very happy, as they were before they married, and nothing seems different at all except they had a big party, or they are not so happy because somehow the dynamics of their formerly successful relationship changed after marriage.
I know we aren't exactly very traditional or typical in that we already live together, which changes the incentive to get married a lot in my opinion, but I'm wondering if you think married life is much different (read:better) in your opinion.
We're just so happy now and I don't actually see getting married contributing to that at all right now. It sort of seem like just an expensive and intense project to take on, the wedding that is, not the actual marriage.
Thoughts? Also, sorry for the rambling.