Ladies! I have to vent!
Last night my fiance told me that he finally talked to his best man about our wedding and his BM asked him to ask me for some concessions (in other words, if we could pay for the groomsmen's trips). I was so upset for multiple reasons, but the main ones are as follows:
1) These are wealthy guys complaining about money to come to our wedding! One is a lawyer, the other has a job and has family money, and the other has a job and lives in a condo owned by his family (plus his wedding over the summer cost over $50,000).
2) My FI spent over $1500 on his BM's wedding and wedding extras (e.g., bachelor party, suit, gift, etc.) and his BM would only have to spend $1100 for a vacation in Jamaica that includes three nights at an all inclusive and airfare (granted that does not include his wife's airfare but if they are so needy for money than why would they both go). His BM's wedding was in Long Island, NY.
3) There are ppl that are planning to come to our wedding that have not been complaining but have a right to complain about the money because they legitimately can't afford to come. I would rather pay for those people!
4) My bridesmaids have not said one thing about wanting money from us and they are ones that are not by any means financially wealthy. They are just so excited for us and for their vacation in Jamaica.
I just feel terrible for my FI. His guys are not going to do anything for him (no bachelor party or any other party - my girls threw us an engagement party and are offering to do a bachelorette and shower) and instead they are asking us to pay for their trips!
Grrrr... Has anyone else had any similar situation?? I did not want a bridal party for this reason! I didn't want drama and I didn't want anyone to use the "bridal party excuse" as a means to ask us for money. I told my girls that if they have any hesitations whatsover about money, they don't need to come and I will not have any hard feelings towards them because I understand that it can get expensive.