Originally Posted by MissBubbles205
I know they really don't now, it made me lose a little respect for them, and I honestly thought they were the top 5 of dependable, honest people. I spoke to my FI, he seemed a little upset as I would if my best friend did something like that to me. I def feel for him.
OH MY.. ( It's sad to see things like this happen with our own people that we consider best friends, or even fmaily. I'm very sorry to hear what happened in your situation with her being soo flaky. Def not a true best friend and I'm glad you were able to find your true friends in the process! I too totally understand the money issues, and I wont ask anyone of their financials, if they want to be there, then I will be overjoyed and very appreciative. I'd rather them tell me they are sorry and the honest reason why they can't/don't want to come. For all I care they could say they don't want to save up and spend that kind of money for a place we chose. I just hate to hear everyone fall back on the excuse of "we can't afford it that kind of thing" when they have had well over a years notice.
I've suggested to my friends who want to honestly come, to save $100 a week from their paychecks. My FI and I have done this and we have come up with soo much money soo fast. Booked our travels $3011, Photog $2600, My Dress, $1000 and the best part we haven't even missed the money.
Ugggghh, I hate that excuse too that "we can't afford it". One of my bridesmaids bailed due to money issues a few months back (money issues in the sense that she didn't want to cut back on eating out all the time in order to be able to go). I got a message from one of my Maid of Honors over the weekend asking if she could book her trip outside of the group because she wouldn't be able to save up the money in time for the start of January when the final payment is due. She still hasn't paid her deposit and it was due a month ago! Never mind the fact that by the time the final payment is actually due, she would have had a full year to save up.
If she had mentioned a few months ago that she was having problems and didn't know if she could pay the full amount, I would not have hesitated to help her out. It is so important to me that she be there. But she brought up the whole "no money" issue a month after deposit was due, after she had just got back from a trip to Cuba. Yeah, she went on a trip to Cuba and now she has no money. I've been livid for the past week.