Originally Posted by Furturemrsg
Need to vent....lol so my future sister in law as backed out going to our wedding at the last minute. We had doubts all along but she finally told his mom (not us) the other day. I feel bad because it's his only sibling and she isn't coming because she doesn't have money. She is single with no kids and has known about Jamaica for 2 years. Lol then I found out my girls are getting a hotel room for my bachelorette party and she is the only one not staying. Now tonight I text everyone about getting there hair done for our reception back home. I found a friend to do it for only $30. We are having professional pics here. SIL replies back and says she will do her own. Ok I'm really annoyed because she is not invoiced with anything and not sure how to reply . She is not a hair stylist by any means. i feel like something like this is suppose to involve all the girls and having us all together. She hasn't lifted a finger to help the other girls. ....ok thank for listening lol
Originally Posted by chrystine888
I know, it's so frustrating when people don't put in any effort. I understand that some people don't have the money, and that's fine, but when people just dismiss it all it's really hurtful. I have the same prob with my little sister. My mom paid for her and her husbands flights, I paid for their room in the Dominican, her dress, alterations, shoes, jewelry, will pay for Mani, Pedi, wax, tanning, hair and makeup. All she really needed to do was go to the dress fitting and not blow the money my mom gave her for the flight. She ended up buying a bunch of crap and now doesn't know if she'll come up with the money for the flights. If she doesn't come, than I've wasted all of the money I've already spent to help her out, and she doesn't even care. She didn't even send a card (let alone try to come) when I had my shower; I basically haven't heard from her since December when she told me that there are other things in life besides my wedding. She hasn't even uttered a "thank you" for everything that Matt and I are doing for her! Long story short, those people don't really matter in the big picture. What's important is that we all get to spend multiple days celebrating the loves of our lives with so many people who DO care!!! There will always be annoying people/situations in the background, but keep those things where they belong--in the background! I know it's easier said than done!!! GOOD LUCK!!!
Ladies I totally hear ya!!! ...I can't even begin to tell you the misery my future SIL has put me and us through....and all because she can't afford to go to the wedding. I have come to learn the hard way that unfortunately there are some people that just can not be happy for others if it's not revolving around them, or if they are just plain and simple a miserable person. Last weekend my FI had to finally cut the ties with his sister as she was causing us a lot of grief . I personally come form a very tight family and have a very large group of friends that are like family to me, so have a hard time understanding how someone that calls themselves family can act so hurtful and spiteful to another family member or choose to not even be a part of the local events they can be even if they can't financially afford to go to the wedding. Weddings can seriously bring out the worst in some people....She turned down every invite ...even Christmas dinner at our house, my shower, the Jack & Jill, etc...and we haven't even had words with her!!!! LOL...she basically found out we were going away for our wedding and had it out with my FI about how this cant be what he wants, iots all MY doing (which is finny cause he was all over the destination more so then me!) and went on about how nice and great it is for my family cause we're obviously rich and can afford it (my family is far from rich) etc etc etc... Andrew stood up for himself obviously and just staed the facts, never said anything negative (he's so not confrontational lol) and then we never heard from her again....just stopped talkign to us, and used everybody else like his Mom and other siblings and FB statuses to make sure we knew how she felt about it. She went as far as to delete us from BBM, and then deleted only ME last week from FB, yet kept Andrew. So Andrew sent her a message, deleted her and said enough is enough you aren't going to treat my soon to be wife like this, it costs no money to support us in this marriage, and no money to just be kind and respectful ...and said we dont need to hear from you again unless you have something positive to say. Do you know she had the nerve to say that she deleted me from FB because of all the posts people were putting on my FB wall about my wedding and because my statsus about how I was excited that we were only 6 weeks away from being married...She said I was rubbing it in that she couldnt go!!! OMG is she for real???!!! If you guys only knew me well enough , you would all find that completely laughable because if there is one thing Im not is that kind of person. I realize now that there is no way that we can do anything to help her or make it better, people that are hell bent on being miserable will always dwell ont he negative, they will always be the poor victim and you the evil people that dare to be happy in your life, and so i have now put it behind me. We have such a strong support system of other family and friends....it really is the one time you get to make this all about you ladies!!!! So enjoy, do yourself the favor and know that those that honestly dont want to share in your excitement or cant be happy for you are really off better at home ...and maybe even out of your life.Positive people and positive vibes only )