Originally Posted by danak71
So, I don't want anyone to think I'm cheapie cheapie LOL but I really didn't want to spend over $500 on my dress...and if I were really being honest if I could have gotten it for $300-$400 that would have been even better. Now there are plenty of things with this wedding I'm willing to spend top dollar on (photography/videography, honeymoon, excursion for my guests, etc.), my dress just wasn't one of them.
Now that being said, I knew if I told the sales girls that, there wouldn't be anything for them to show me! Hahaha So I told them I didn't want to go over $1000 (thinking I could probably find someone selling something similar in my price range). My MOH is a bulldog when it comes to certain things and she absolutely would not allow them to bring me anything over $1000. We didn't want them to bring stuff to me that I would get emotional about and love; and then end up spending more than I wanted to. You have to be that person for Amy. I would say maybe go up to twice what you're really willing to pay when searching but no more than that probably because if you're willing to buy pre- owned (as I was) then you can most likely find it at half off for the same dress or something very similar.
That's great to hear you say that, because that's pretty much where we are, too. Now I don't feel like the poor/cheap bride, haha. I had in mind that she could go up to the 600 to 800 range, but she said she doesn't want to spend that much and prefers to cap it around 400. My own dress is in the low 400s, which I thought would make her feel more comfortable spending more on her own, but it actually made her want to find a cheaper dress, too. She's realized that two brides buying dresses is going to add up to way more than she ever thought we'd be spending (she was blissfully unaware of how much wedding dresses cost) and would rather spend that cash on other aspects of the wedding, which I completely understand and agree with.
I can definitely handle being the pit bull at the appointment; that is my nature, anyway! Everyone hates a pushy salesperson, but I generally can't stand the nice ones, either. I know what I like, know what I'm willing to pay, and neither need nor want outside opinions in the fitting room. Amy is different, though, usually very appreciative of sales people, because she usually has no idea what she wants or what she's willing to spend. I know a salesperson will read her and see she is easily persuaded, so I had in mind I would have to insist she not be shown a single dress over the amount we tell them.
I asked her more questions today about whether she'd be ok with trying on dresses, then having me find something similar for less, but she's afraid she'll fall in love with something and want that very item, right then and there. Knowing her, I can't say I disagree; I know it's likely, based on past experiences shopping with her. Once she finds something she likes, she's ready to pay and have them bag it up, not keep shopping for a lower price. With that in mind, I took a closer look online at bridesmaids dresses that come in formal enough styles that she could get away with, without anyone being the wiser at the wedding. Many come in white and could be jazzed up with a crystal belt or something similar. Doing that takes us from being in the lowest price category to suddenly able to look at anything she likes, since most bridesmaids are well under $400. And sizing won't be as big of an issue, either, since many bridesmaid dress lines come in a full range of sizes.
I'm checking to see when the bridesmaid she wants to come along has time to shop with us, and hopefully we'll hit bridal shop #1 soon! I know she hopes to only do it once, but I warned her she may need to go two or three places to find the dress. She made a face, but agreed.